hi! recently i heard that my ex is struggling a lot since we broke up. i honestly can't say i'm surprised, since we did spend a lot of time with each other and as far as i know, he didn't have many close people besides me. and i do feel really bad for him, a part of me desperately wants to reach out and give him some comfort because chances are that he is struggling alone. on the other hand he is the one who broke us up, so he fully knew what the consequences of that are. also the fact that he wouldn't do the same for me puts me off a bit. the toxicity in the relationship makes me think that i never want to get into that again, but its sad to see him taking nc so badly. i do honestly wish him all the best and i hope he feels better soon
Last updated on:2025-11-12T19:00:57+05:30
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do you think it’s guilt that makes you want to check on him, or a part of you still hoping he’ll show he cares too?
i think its neither. i still care about him and having the knowledge that he feels this way is worrying. i know that we are done, so specifically me reaching out probably wouldnt help him much. i really hope he can find his way out of the dark place he is in
i get the urge to reach out, but every time i’ve done that, it’s only reopened wounds for both of us. sometimes the kindest thing you can do is not step in. people grow the most when they face what they created on their own.
when my ex fell apart after ending things, i felt that same weird mix of guilt and detachment. like i wanted to help but also knew i couldn’t save him anymore. it’s hard watching someone you once loved struggle, even when you know it’s not your job anymore.