My boyfriend broke up with me because i was a “bad girlfriend” Idk how to feel about this. I always tried my best to make him feel loved and valued. I spent all my money on him in bristol (I know money isn’t everything but to me I worked hard for my money and he wanted to spend it all on stupid things like alcohol only for him) Or when he whited out in a random place far from home i stayed with him all night, even when he told me to shut up i sat with him and made sure he was okay. I always listened to him rant about his mom and even on my birthday when i was all alone and he came round to cry I just listened. even when i never got my birthday gift i said i “understood”. I want him back but idk if i actually was a bad girlfriend
Last updated on:2025-11-17T01:10:52+05:30
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hi I need a loyal one
it sounds like you were a loving and supportive girlfriend it is sounds like it was one sided and his feelings were all that matterd and youres didn't matter to him so much.move on to someone who wants a girlfriend not a therapist.
it takes two people to make a relationship work. I am sure you have amazing qualities about you that are appreciated by other people in your life. He couldnt see you
HE RANT ABT HIS MOTHER ?
girl that's it !... if he don't respect his mom why will he respect you ?
be blessed that u got breakup....
Someone Better is Really Waiting For U ...
don't change yourself for others & NEVER DEMEAN yourself just coz someone else said u don't worth it !
cheers you'll through it all
In all fairness his mom is very horrible to him 😔😔BUT YES, feeling blessed but also missing the little things
do you actually think you were a bad girlfriend, or are you just repeating what he said because it hurt to hear it?
its sad to see this my ex just used me as well your not bad he is a selfish asshole for treating you the way he did and blaming you keep your head up u did what u was supposed to sad thing is some people just use others and don't realize or do idk but how much the other person hurts from the pain they put you trew
there is no way you were a bad gf from what I've read, you are the total opposite from bad. you spent money on him, put his needs first and he didn't celebrate your birthday with you. it sounds like you will be better off without him in your life now, you just need to see it for yourself.
I'm speaking from experience, I used to buy little gifts for him and went out my way to do a goodie bag for his birthday regardless he wasn't even speaking to me. and I always went out my way to make him happy, I would apologise when I'd done nothing wrong but express how I was feeling to be shut down by him every time. once again he's not speaking to me, it's been a week now and it hurts so much I just want to cry. I'm now depressed and haven't been to work since last week because I can't focus on anything but him. I'm always checking my phone to see if he's sent me a message but nothing. Im using this app to get me through my pain as I don't have anyone else I can talk to.
You can always talk to me! I feel like i’m going through a similar experience. although i did all this i definitely would pick little arguments over nothing and i feel that’s my fault. i’ve had today to myself and i realised that me picking little arguments even tho they were valid (during the worst moments of my life aswell and he knew) and always having to apologise made me feel so unloved and i gave him so many chances. he just stopped talking to me and ended it without even giving me the benifit of the doubt and hearing me out. he just left and went awol. we can get through this tg and im here if u need 🫶
@leilei I more than need someone to talk to who will understand me, so thank you. I feel as if I'm going out of my mind I honestly do. he doesn't really have a reason to not speak to me he just chooses to treat me this way knowing I'll be going insane. I know I'll make it out the other side but it's too raw at the moment to even think about life without him in it.
@Ventara953 Sit in your feelings for a while and process everything, slowly start doing things that you guys would do together but with other people or alone, maybe add a screen time to stop checking if he’s messaged. He sounds so stupid for letting someone amazing go and one day (maybe not now and maybe not for a while) BUT one day you WILL thrive and life a happy joyful life, find someone who loves you for you and values you and would never treat you like this! you will get there one day 💞
@leilei thank you for your support. even before I read your response I've finally managed to build up the courage to block him from WhatsApp and my socials. I already removed him as my friend list on my socials a while back after he stopped talking to me then, so now I have no need to be checking if he's messaged me because he can't. this will be a big shock to him if he ever decides to message or call me because he knows I love him more than he loves me so won't think I'm strong enough to block him. I'm proud of myself.
you sound like you gave more than you got. that imbalance always leaves you questioning yourself. take a step back before you chase him again sometimes what we call “bad” just means “didn’t lose yourself completely.”
I hope that you will be able to heal completely. I know it's not easy. We are all here for the same reason, broken. If the reason of your break up is not about cheating, please reconcile, talk about how you feel. Be honest. You can still save it if you both want it.
Our breakup wasn’t about cheating, i really want to reconcile and try again but i don’t know how to go about it.
@leilei did he blocked you? if you still have access to his soc med, just chat him. but if you can talk to him in person, that's better. go for it. at least you tried to fix it.
@Nightmare he said he wanted to talk face to face but that his desicion is made up 😐. I was on call begging him to just talk things through with me. it’s been two years and we already broke up once and got back toghether and now he’s refusing to hear me out or talk to me! i still have his contact and he messages me yesterday asking if i was okay and that he was here for me. idk if it’s better to leave it for two weeks and then talk or carry on begging for him.
@leilei if you really planning to reconcile, please be honest about how you feel. If its already toxic, please chose your self.
@leilei please stop begging. It won't help. Just disappear for a moment. Trust me, been there. Please know your worth. talk to your friends. it will help you a lot.
my ex used to call me “too much” when i was the one picking him up every time he fell apart. i remember spending my savings on his comfort and still being told i didn’t love him right. it messes with your head, thinking maybe you were the problem when you were just trying to care.
i agree It really does mess with you head! i really want to cuss him out and tell him he’s wrong but I think the best option is to let it be and heal
He's broke he doesn't care about you he doesn't provide nothing to you why do you want him back ?? girl know your worth
you weren't a bad gf he just doesn't love you the same way that you do. honestly it's going to be hard but find you someone that will love the way you do