my ex watched porn! even after i told him how degraded that makes me feel when we were sexually active id always feel like i could never compare to the girls he would watch. Is this cheating? in my opinion it is and i had told him that…
Last updated on:2025-11-14T01:08:03+05:30
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did he know exactly how deep it cut you? like did you have a real convo about it, or did he kinda just dismiss it when you tried to explain?
i don’t think there’s one universal answer to whether it’s “cheating.” it’s about the boundary you set and whether he respected it. if you told him it hurt you and he kept doing it, that’s the real issue the lack of care.
my ex used to do the same and would brush it off like “everyone does it.” it made me feel so small, like no matter what i did i’d never be enough. it’s not even about the porn itself sometimes, it’s about how it makes you feel unseen. you’re not crazy for feeling that way.
as a guy I don't believe looking at porn is cheating but I do believe you're feelings should play a role in whether he watches it or not.if you're hos girl then you're feelings should be respected and taken into consideration.
to me is not cheating. but if it’s like an addiction that’s a problem. porn is not real, they are acting. I don’t compare myself to those women. real sex is so different. in my previous relationship sometimes we watched it together. and we talked about our fantasies.
There's no reason for him to get turned on by other women, that's definitely cheating
I had this in my relationship, it made me feel uncomfortable the idea of him getting turned on by other women, I started comparing my self to them i didnt look like them. did I not satisfy him enough? I vocalised how it made me feel, and he said I had nothing to worry about. but im with you, it does feel like cheating!
Not cheating per se but it definitely crossed a boundary once you expressed your discomfort with it