So I talked to a boy like "friend" I never saw him in person tho after a time I was sure he is not for me bc he wanted other things in life rather than me..
but we continue talking like friends and then, yeah I meet someone and he too and we somehow dessapered from each other lifes but somehow everytime we talked again (never saw him in person tho)
and rn I know him from like when I was 15 now I will turn 20 Soon ..
And today I texted him and I said I wanna see him in person (even if its only one time in my life) but Idk I feel mixed signals Im scared I wanna see him but Im scared Im gonna like him that much bc I know 100% he is not for me but like I cant take him Forever from my mind maybe the "fantasy" of being with him bc I never was..
I should add that I did broke up with my ex fiance a month ago...
I wanna see this "friend" in "New Year"
(I like him sm tho I wanna kiss him ahahah)
Last updated on:2025-11-14T04:01:14+05:30
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do you think part of wanting to see him now is tied to your breakup — like maybe craving that familiar comfort after losing your ex? or do you feel it’s more about finally closing that open chapter with him?
I feel like the two things
I want to replace the feeling that my ex gave me but
I wanna see him to "shut up" my fantasy
if you do end up seeing him, just remind yourself you’re not doing it to find “the one.” you’re just meeting a human you’ve known in a weird, digital way. no pressure, no expectations. keeping it light usually helps me not spiral into the “what if” zone again.
oh thats so cool what you texted
It gave me positivity and optimism
i had this online “thing” for years too we never met, but he was always in the back of my head like a what-if. when i finally saw him, it hit me how much of it was the fantasy i’d built. it wasn’t bad, just different. sometimes it’s not the person we’re drawn to, it’s the version of them that lived in our imagination
do you think its the best for me to meet him?
maybe like that my "what If we went on a date, and what its the feeling of being with him in person" to end in my head ?
or should I avoid him completely?
you should be careful , the period after you broke with someone who meant so much to you is so sensitive , slow down and give your self some time to heal first , because right now your mind and heart are craving the love they used to get with your fiance so you will find yourself trying to get that love from any one you just met or someone you know before as much a u can , so slow down and give your self some time so that you wont do something you will regret later
whats your opinion what should I do?
take some time to heal first i dont think one month is enough to heal totally from your fiance , love your self more , give the love you crave from other people to your self , do activities you like try to avoid meeting new people for that period , when u feel like ur healed , than go ahead and meat new people