So he broke no contact today to wish me a happy birthday and it sent me into a full blown panic attack. Why would he do this now? because he feels bad? because he still cares? because he wants to know if i still care? i’m frustrated because he made my life a living hell for the last 8 months of it and i was finally starting to feel good and now he’s back texting me. i don’t want to talk to him or be with him. Part of me is happy he texted me because now i know a part of him still cares and i know a part of me does too. However, i know i deserve better and i don’t know how to respond or if i should respond.
Last updated on:2025-11-14T05:34:48+05:30
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do you think hearing from him brought back memories, or do you feel like part of you still hoped he’d reach out someday?
i think it was a mix of both. we didn’t end on horrible terms but there was a ton of hurt on both sides. i’ve been doing good too and hearing from him just brought back so many negative thoughts and feelings.
i didn’t end up responding
don’t reply if it’s gonna mess with your peace. birthdays already carry emotions, and you don’t owe him closure or kindness just because he remembered the date.
my ex did the exact same thing on my birthday after months of silence. i remember shaking just seeing his name pop up. it’s wild how something so small can throw you right back
if you decide to respond. just say thank you. don’t overthink. maybe he just wanted to say happy birthday as a friend.
don't respond, just block him, trust me you'll feel better
don’t respond at all!