I know I don't want to go back to him, I know he's not good for me. I feel this huge void though, which makes me think about him constantly. maybe I'm just lonely. I try to go and do stuff to distract myself but it is hard. anyone else feel this way?
Last updated on:2025-11-15T00:25:48+05:30
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I feel that the best way to heal is to feel that pain... when you start feeling the pain, don't try to distract yourself.. just feel the pain ...cry if you have to.sit with the pain.. you'll feel it until you get numb...
when that loneliness hits me, i try to not fight it too hard. i just tell myself “ok, this is what it feels like today.” it weirdly makes the thinking-obsessing spiral a little lighter.
i didn’t even miss him, i missed the place he used to fill. the routine, the texts, the feeling of being chosen. it’s wild how the mind pretends it’s about the person when it’s really about the emptiness they left behind
So true!
im exactly the same, there is more of us!
relate to you completely… this happens but it will pass. feel everything you need to feel, then get up distract yourself, whenever you think of him refocus your thoughts immediately.. you have got this❤️
yes honey I mean waking up ugly crying!! Everything reminded me of him. I was getting out of the shower and grab my towel and broke down because hes usually there to get it for ne again ugly cry. But what I did tht helped me I wrote down the pros and cons of our relationship( he had anger problems) I thought i had so many pros but I only had a handful and 2 pages of cons. I remind myself thats hes still a manchild and hasnt done anything to change it so I have to stop thinking about what could've been if he gotten help to what really was its definitely an eye opener and I have been feeling a lot better. dont get me wrong he do cross my mind from time to time and now I dont feel so anxious and sick.
your situation is very similar to mine. He refused to get help
@HappyHour212 yep I kept asking and asking.Tried explaining how when he has those anger outbursts I have to deal with the heaviness and darkness of it and he just expects forgiveness and move on you can only do tht so much.I was hurting and he was fine. I had to realize he doesnt want help and im tired of being unhappy and on walking on egg shells
@HappyHour212 his job even offered some free sessions of therapy so he couldnt even complain about the price but still he didnt even attempt. but then when I put him out after 7rs of asking him to get help he said I didnt give him a chance and I wanted it done when I wanted it done.
@YumDot261 oh wow. that's unfortunate that he doesn't care enough about himself to go get the help. it sounds like you care and love yourself enough for it to be done
I going through this right now
I feel your pain
I was literally this position past weeks. that means ur Healing.... u dont need him back...big step... but this feeling of void will be gone soon... just dont stop investing on urself