I’ve been in a relationship for the last 5 years, and i don’t know how can I make myself better again, kindly tell me what to do or abstain myself from!!
Last updated on:2025-11-17T23:14:41+05:30
what not to do after a breakup!
I’ve been in a relationship for the last 5 years, and i don’t know how can I make myself better again, kindly tell me what to do or abstain myself from!!
Last updated on:2025-11-17T23:14:41+05:30
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are you sure a relationship that lasted for 5 years can end? please be 100% sure that the relationship is actually over... because I believe once you have dated someone for more than 3 years you can't break up easily
she said she lost her romantic feelings for me
@OpenHeart806 I'm so sorry 🫂 you'll get your perfect match ❤️🩹
when you say “make myself better again,” do you mean emotionally, like the heartbreak part, or things in your life that changed during the relationship too?
things in my life that changed during the relationship
what usually helps me is slowing everything down. like not trying to “fix” myself in one day, just doing tiny things that remind me i’m still here. eating something, going outside, writing down how i really feel. it’s messy but it’s a start.
thank you
i remember coming out of my relationship and feeling like i didn’t even know who i was without him. it’s scary as hell when you’ve been “us” for so long. it took me a while to even recognize my own wants again. you’re not alone in that emptiness
wishing you peace and happiness
I just left my relationship of 10yrs we were engaged about 5yrs. He started dating someone 2months after. ugh the hurt, confusion, anger and disappointment and so much more. I cried so hard for a few days. mostly everything in my house reminds me of him. When we got together we were both broke had literally nothing!!! Stayed in hotels lived off of hotel food, riding around getting furniture off the side of the road to sale to make ends meet so everything we have we got it together so it was hard. but he had anger problems what I did was sit down and wrote down the pros and cons and you will be surprised and when I miss him I have to tell myself tht he hasnt changed and not going to and im only missing what I thought could be and I only want him back because he's with somebody else. and If I got him back today what would It change NOTHING!! because he hasn't changed. maybe you should try the pros and cons list
thank you for sharing this, will be definitely trying this
@OpenHeart806 be really honest! I had to write down everything. And everytime you thk about reaching out look at your list and I carry mines around with me. It really really helped me to get out of the dreamy faze and see what the relationship really was.
get rid of anything that reminds you of them… pictures, texts, objects anything… this will pass.. you have got this❤️
very difficult but yes
Don’t go crazy and psycho and stalk his socials and his friends 😔 (learnt from experience)
how long were you together
@ladyT two years (if you don’t count the one month we were broken up for)
yes, it’s hurting me more about the time I’ve invested in this relationship