Need someone who can tell me what to do

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Hii,I'm Toky and i'm 22 years old today,I just want to ask you if there is a person who feels the same as me because I'm stuck on this.
Me and my ex was in relationship for 1years and 1 months but she secretly cheated on me or she told me that she won't do that and choose him over me because this guys lefts his gf for my ex.
And after that I told her to stop talking to me and wish her the best cause I can't put up with like she wants to change our relationship into friendship (because I've begged so much but finally she didn't choose me)Did I choose the right things??
I'm so depressive guys cause I've planned to marry her,I was very loyal to her,and I've already present her to my mom and I've already meet her mom too(she told me to meet her because she wanted a real relationship so I accepted)
I'm down guys,,please...help💔

Last updated on:2025-11-15T22:58:48+05:30

Comments (19)

Nightmare
Nightmare 4 mths ago

I feel you bro. been there. here is my formula Acceptance+ forgiveness+detachment. You have to accept that she did not choose you for you to detach. I know it's hard 👑.but, i believe in you bro.

Toky
Toky 4 mths ago

Thanks broo🙏🏾,it's hard cause I'm down💔

othegoat
othegoat 4 mths ago

when she asked for friendship, what did that feel like to you? like did it feel genuine or more like she wanted to ease her own guilt?

Toky
Toky 4 mths ago

I've felt like a trash because,I've loved her so much and I couldn't accept to change it into a friendship and her who's already with a boy and me,i'm here,broken and lonely...
I don't really know because,I've just began to choose me,it have been up to her because,her decision doesn't have to do with me anymore😓

ChillPals137
ChillPals137 4 mths ago

Let her go... It's a matter of time before she comes back begging

Toky
Toky 4 mths ago

I've let her because she didn't choose me 💔

ChillPals137
ChillPals137 4 mths ago

@RazzZip701 I am also letting my ex-boyfriend go because he chose another lady who is 3 months pregnant for him

Boldhunk
Boldhunk 4 mths ago

you did the right thing by stepping back. choosing distance isn’t weakness, it’s you protecting whatever is left of you. when i felt like you do, i focused on no contact for a while because friendship right after heartbreak just messed me up worse

Toky
Toky 4 mths ago

No I don't have any Heart anymore just piece of Heart that I have to rebuild it alonee,and it hurts meee🙏🏾
Sometimes,my spirit and my feelings fight and It just drain my energy...💔

Heartpain
Heartpain 4 mths ago

i went through something like that when my ex cheated then tried to “stay friends” like it was a consolation prize. i remember meeting her family and thinking it meant something real. that betrayal hits in a DIFFERENT place. i’m really sorry you’re carrying all that on your birthday too

Toky
Toky 4 mths ago

Thank you so much,I don't know what to do anymore..💔

Mekdi
Mekdi 4 mths ago

she cheated. you have to move on!
ur mind is tricking you. you should move on.

Toky
Toky 4 mths ago

Maybe we can talk on messenger or whatsapp?
I want to tell more if you would 🙏🏾

Mekdi
Mekdi 4 mths ago

@RazzZip701 do u use telegram?
if yes, @mekdest is my handle.

Toky
Toky 4 mths ago

@Mekdi Yess,I use Telegram

Toky
Toky 4 mths ago

@Mekdi But I Didn't see your name(Mekdest)on Telegram 😓

Toky
Toky 4 mths ago

@Mekdi Mine is @TokyRam

Mekdi
Mekdi 4 mths ago

@RazzZip701 texted you

ChillPals137
ChillPals137 4 mths ago

@Mekdi my WhatsApp is +254728929009