when you go back to him, what’s the moment that usually breaks your resolve? like is it loneliness, or something he says, or just the fear of losing him for good?

isaa 3 wks ago

fear of really losing him

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and then when you go back you feel soooo happy. You feel like you were meant to be... You feel like he was the one who was meant for you...
only to be so heartbroken 2 days later...

I would advise you to go back and tell you can't go back again ❤️‍🩹💐🫂

they compare getting over a breakup in some cases as similar as going through substance abuse. for me, as someone who had codependent tendencies with my ex, that helped me move through it a little more. that's why no contact can help so much because it gives you the space to focus on finding yourself as an individual. I know it's really hard because being lonely, feeling loney, is a heavy sensation. it feels a lot more comfortable to have someone you can rely on for support. there can be beauty in living in the discomfort and rising from the ashes of it. I believe in you and I wish you luck on your healing journey. <3

what helped me a little was noticing the pattern instead of fighting it. like, “okay, this is the part where i crave him again.” it made me feel less ashamed and more aware. the pull gets weaker when you stop judging yourself for it.

yeah it’s like an addiction. :(

Same here!

i had that same emotional dependence with my ex. he could hurt me ten different ways and i’d still run back the second he said anything soft. it’s like your brain knows better but your heart’s addicted. you’re not crazy for feeling that pull