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I work with my ex. does talking about work considered no contact?

for context, I work with my ex as shift supervisors. he is the main opener, I am the main closer. so, we have little-to-no choice in contacting each other sometimes about work, whether it be individually or in group chats. I think I know the answer, but I honestly think I just want external validation that I'm not using work as an excuse to talk to him.

I literally joke that our workplace is our child of divorce because that's genuinely what it feels like.

Comments (4)

SadEnough
SadEnough 3 wks ago

when you two talk for work, does it stay strictly about the task or does it drift into old comfort sometimes?

gayclown42
gayclown42 3 wks ago

😬🙏🏼 a very good thing to consider lol

GoneHe
GoneHe 3 wks ago

what helped me was asking myself if i’d send the same message to any coworker or if i was adding extra softness for him. that little check kind of kept me honest with myself without judging it.

gayclown42
gayclown42 3 days ago

I know this is three weeks later, but considering this heavily going through this process has helped me so much. thank you.

limbba
limbba 3 wks ago

i used to work with my ex too and it really did feel like we were “co-parenting” a job together. every tiny work message felt like this weird mix of duty and wanting connection. you’re not crazy for feeling that way

gayclown42
gayclown42 3 wks ago

this genuinely made me feel so much better, thank you

PogoBun805
PogoBun805 3 wks ago

ur still no contact if u dont have a choice but talk