How to break up?
I keep coming back to him and he keeps breaking my boundaries, disrespecting me as a partner - and finally apologizing, saying it won't happen again. It happens again. He invalidates my feelings constantly, calls them unfounded and says we argue each day over nothing. It makes me feel so bad, to the point it's starting to affect my physical health. I know the only choice is to break up, but I can't, and I can't figure out why. I can't help myself but reaching out to him, constantly talking to him and seeking love and comfort. Ugh.
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do you feel like the comfort you’re seeking from him is the same comfort he’s the one taking away? like does it feel like you’re trying to fix the hurt with the person who caused it?
when i was stuck like that, i started writing down each time something hurt me. it helped me see the pattern instead of the apology. made it a little easier to think about stepping back.
god this is literally the cycle i was trapped in with my ex. he’d cross a boundary, i’d cry, he’d apologize, then boom same thing next week. i felt guilty for wanting better and still couldn’t leave. that kind of emotional whiplash messes with your head in ways you don’t even notice till your body starts breaking down
Find someone worth it, girl. Ending things with him won't be easy, but you'll be much better off
I have been in the exact same situation and mine never got better. He just broke me again and again. He just hurt me again and again. and I just reached to a point where I felt enough is enough. It's not like it's easy but I just felt like I have given many chances until I have no other chance to give. and he continuously broke my heart until I just felt like he's feeling nothing about it... It reached to a point where I asked him if he's okay with our breakup and he told me that he's okay and we should do nothing about it
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