it's been 9 days of our official break up after a month of arguing. yesterday he called me drunk at first he spoke nicely and 5min later he got aggressive assuming me of the worst things telling me how he regrets loving me and saying his going to expose who I really am to everyone. I feel completely shattered his angry that I told people in his circle about his secret relationship he had or has with his colleague. I don't even know what I'm feeling I still love him and miss him. I don't understand how his making me the crazy 1 in the relationship when he did something wrong
Last updated on:2025-11-17T16:04:45+05:30
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when he said he’d “expose you,” did it feel like a real threat or more like he was trying to scare you into staying quiet?
it definitely felt like a real threat and I did my best to seem unborthered and told him to do what he wants it won't change who I am. but I actually do care but I'm use to people thinking bad of me
when someone’s lashing out like that, i try to remind myself their guilt is louder than the truth. distance usually helps me see the manipulation more clearly. you don’t deserve to get blamed for HIS secrets.
I guess his guilt is making him do this but making me the bad person to everyone we know is so unfair what makes it worse I'm a introvert so everyone going to believe him because his the social lite his friendly to everyone as if a break up isn't bad enough I have to go through it knowing what people saying and thinking of me
my ex used to do the same drunk-nice-then-mean flip, accusing me of things he was actually doing. that whiplash leaves you feeling like you’re losing your mind when you’re not. i’m so sorry he hit you with that “i regret loving you” stuff, that kinda line stays in your chest for days
I'm so sorry u went through that I hope u heal quickly from it. I've been crying my eyes out all weekend and I still want to call him so badly I feel like I'm loosing my mind the idea of him not caring about me hating me is breaking me. it's like I'm addicted and il do anything to stop the pain
he's 100% projecting and you do not deserve that at all. what has helped me through this healing process in my own personal journey is just reminding myself that I can only control myself, I cannot control him—his actions, thoughts, or feelings. he can say whatever he wants about you, what will really show to everyone the true nature of your relationship is viewing your actions compared to his and if he's acting crazy and you're not, that tells everything without words. at the end of the day, you know your truth and that's all that matters, not the opinions of others. stay strong! it's okay to have conflicting feelings about him and stay kind to yourself. <3
thank you for this. I just wish I didn't miss him its like my heart and mind is at war and ontop of that his circle of friends became my friends and I guess they picked him. I can't even imagine what he said or showed them to make them hate me. All I know is that they having a good weekend partying supporting him through this break up and I'm all alone. what's even worse is I keep comparing myself to his colleague that he sex chatted with who knows what they did because he denies everything. I keep thinking why her why wasn't I enough. I hate her I hate him for doing this to me and still acts as if he did nothing wrong
I'm going to try and work on myself I'm trying to not do any stupid things like posting stuff on social media but my inner psyco is screaming