I’ve been in a relationship for over 5 years. It’s all good and happy in the first couple of years, but the resentment of abstaining from physical intimacy has hurt me always. It stayed the same even after conveying and sharing all my emotions. Now, 5 years without any physical intimacy, hoping everything would be better in the future, she broke up with me due to her losing her feelings towards me, but wants me to be her best friend always. I love this person and I want to do everything for her to make her happy. Though the years I’ve never been able to satisfy my needs are hurting me. Should I jump into a casual relationship! Or would it make things even worse? How can I deal with this!!
Last updated on:2025-11-17T23:37:03+05:30
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when she said she wanted you as her “best friend,” how did that actually land in your body? like did it feel comforting or did it feel like she was asking you to stay without giving you anything you needed?
casual stuff after a breakup hits everyone differently. for me, it only helped when i wasn’t doing it to fill a hole or distract from pain. right now, it sounds like you’re still grieving and tired from carrying so much for so long.
so how should I know I’m in the right place now
i was in a long relationship where i kept waiting for intimacy to change. i kept shrinking my own needs thinking love meant starving myself. when she left and still wanted “friendship,” it messed me up even more. you’re not crazy for being hurt by this.
how did you overcome bro
Brooo,the best advice for me is to move on and not transforming your love to a friendship because it will hurt you for seeing her with someone else and you're going to lose yourself and your value 😣
I'm on the same history but me and my ex have been in a relationship for 1 years and 1 months and she cheated and leave me and treat me as an option💔
And it hurts a lot but I had to left because she want that our relationship turn into a friendship and I didn't accept because it's a form of disrespect and treating like an option.💔
So king,take a courage to move on and build yourself🙏🏾
thanks brother, more power to you too
@OpenHeart806 Yeahhh,pray for you broo🙏🏾