it's been a while, nearly a month, and im still struggling. and honestly, its hell. when people try and tell you that youll find someone better or that they werent that great anyways, i know it does not make it better. but honestly, even though this isnt something you guys would want to hear right now, if they were the right person, they wouldnt be making you feel like this. and if you can love the wrong person this much, just THINK how much you can love the right person, and how much they will love you back. thats what keeps me going, because one day, youll want that for yourself, and not just want them back.
Last updated on:2025-11-19T03:54:03+05:30
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It's refreshing to see some posts from people in longer relationships going through this too. I still wonder if I did the right thing in breaking off my 6 year relationship. Day 71 now. Thank you for sharing.
oh I'm so sorry but you'll get through this
when you think about them now, is it more the person you loved or the idea of what you had together that hurts most?
honestly the idea of what we couldve been just hurts so much
what helps me is reminding myself it’s okay to feel this pain fully. one day the idea of the right person loving me that much actually feels real, instead of just a dream.
yes tysm
I'm trying to tell this to myself every day you said it perfectly. a 5 year relationship down the drain the guy I thought would be my husband and father of my children is now going to be a stranger. I cry every day but I let myself cry and let it out I'm grieving a life I wanted with him but he treated me like nothing 1 Day il find someone I hope. it's been 11 days and hoping to reach 365 very quickly and have this pain in the past
You'll get there. I'm at day 206 after a 7 year marriage and being together for 13 years. I never thought I'd make it. I'm rooting for you, and I'm proud of how far you have come. You got this. ❤️
omw that's heart breaking 💔 I'm so sorry this happened to you I can only imagine what you must of felt. but I know some things happen for a reason he wasn't your forever person he was the person you needed at that time and you should be so proud of yourself 206 days and going strong 💪 and be proud you didn't let that inner psycho out because God knows I'm struggling to lol
I think it's easier for us to want to hold onto the familiarity of our ex. the thought of starting over is scary and a very daunting feeling. we start talking to ourselves asking what if they don't like me and before we know it we're back trying to reach out to our ex. pushing the way they made us feel and treated us to the back of our minds. we need to remember how unhealthy being with them was in order to move past this difficult time. I'm only 11 days in and feel stronger, of course I'm still navigating the pain I feel but for the end goal of finding someone who will love me they way I love them it's worth being in pain now.
exactly like just the feeling of starting over and memorising someone else's favourite colour while you know the reason why that colour was so close to your exes heart just hurts so much. we would talk about baby names, and just remembering how much you really know each other better then anyone else in the world is like a punch in the gut
@chloebug7 love is so painful and the innocent ones always get hurt the most
i spent weeks telling myself she was't worth it while still crying over them every night. your words hit me in the chest it’s SUCH a weird mix of grief and hope
because really, we just want them to change for us. but some people don't have to change to be the perfect person for us
This is what I remind myself. it’s been 10weeks since our separation. still early days after 8years together
wow 8 years is rough I'm so sorry