I'm feeling the pressure

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I'm fighting the urge to message him today.

Normally I would message him first when he stops speaking to me but I've blocked him so I don't know if he's tried to message me or not.

What should I do?

Last updated on:2025-11-18T15:14:50+05:30

Comments (7)

NoClosure
NoClosure 3 mths ago

what’s the part that’s making you wanna reach out today? the missing him or the not knowing if he tried?

Ventara953
Ventara953 3 mths ago

both. but I miss him and I want to tell him

HappyHour212
HappyHour212 3 mths ago

keep yourself distracted I know easier said than done. try to think of what all went wrong versus the good things. think of the future and your life of what it can be now. That's how you will start to heal. try to text a friend even multiple friends to rid the urge of messaging him. eventually you won't even think about wanting to message him

GhostUs
GhostUs 3 mths ago

what helps me in these moments is doing literally anything that gets me out of my head for a bit. even a walk or texting a friend. the urge usually passes if i don’t act on it right away.

Ventara953
Ventara953 3 mths ago

it just comes in waves and I'm finding it hard. I thought if I blocked him then I would know there's no way he can message me and that would make it easier but I'm now realising I was wrong.
hopefully tomorrow will be a better day 🤞🏽

SadSmiley
SadSmiley 4 mths ago

i used to break my own no contact just because the silence was killing me. every time i blocked my ex i’d still wonder if he was trying to reach out. it’s wild how our brains cling to that tiny “maybe.” you’re not crazy for feeling pulled like this

Ventara953
Ventara953 4 mths ago

yes, I believe its the not knowing if he's tried to contact me as it's been 12 days now. I'm thinking to unblock him but I also know if he's already tried to message me then he definitely won't try again regardless if he can now see my status. why is love so painful and why does it effect our emotions like this??. I don't believe I will message him as it's just madness and I don't want to get into an argument with him