to be honest I am not ashamed or afraid to say that I have gone back to my ex three times and they all failed... That does not mean that I was desperate... and again that does not mean that I was foolish... actually right now I feel so good that I went back to him three times because it makes me feel like I am not sure that it was never meant to be since I have tried to make it work three times... again I also feel I have nothing to be blamed for because going back to him three times shows that I give my efforts it is just that it did not work... Even if in future he ever looks back and so The many chances I give him and he messed up, He will absolutely feel so much heaviness about it... and I will feel nothing at all because I genuinely gave my best...
Last updated on:2025-11-19T13:22:01+05:30
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i’m curious… when you look back at those three times, do you feel like you were hoping he’d finally match your energy, or were you trying to save the history you had?
I was hoping that he's finally ready to seriously be with me...
what helped me was reminding myself that effort isn’t embarrassing. the wrong person just can’t meet you where you are, no matter how many chances you give
do you think they later regret?
your right, there is peace knowing you never gave up. knowing you tried your best, you were forgiving and strong. it shows how deep your love was and there is nothing wrong with that.
absolutely
i went back to my ex twice and for a long time i thought it meant i was weak or blinded. now i see it like you said… i tried. i showed up. he didn’t. there’s a weird peace in that.
actually there's some kind of relief in knowing that you gave many chances... You just feel like you did whatever you had to do and it failed...so it's okay because you did whatever you had to do... You will never move on asking yourself the "what if" questions...