My plan is to achieve neutrality, not disgust or to punish him
We were together for two years. Logically it's going to take a lot of time to remove him from the pedestal my heart placed him at.
So do you guys think 1 month is enough to start seeing him from a logical point and not viewing him through an emotional veil.
I know it's going to take a lot of time to stop getting used to him but I'm hoping a month is enough to stop romanticising him .
it's been 10 days and I'm going crazy. The first 7days were amazing for me but I'm slowly loosing my cool. I made some research and it confirmed midweek is the toughest because because we start romanticising their flaws, going through withdrawal and all.
I'm really hoping things get better around the fourth week 🥺🥺
Last updated on:2025-11-20T03:02:34+05:30
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during those first 7 days when you said you felt amazing, what changed after that?
I started saying "maybe it wasn't deep"
I started missing our connection,his voice,laugh and opinions when I share a gossip with him.
a month is enough to start seeing them clearer, but not enough to feel fully neutral. what usually helps me is giving myself tiny reminders of why it ended whenever i start idealising him. not in a spiteful way, just grounding.
remember trying so hard to be “neutral” about my ex too. we were together and my brain had him on this stupid pedestal for MONTHS. even when i knew the relationship sucked at the end, my heart kept replaying the soft parts. those midweeks you mentioned… omg yes. i used to romanticise the exact things that made me miserable. withdrawal is real and it makes you feel like you’re losing your mind. you’re not. you’re just detoxing from someone who meant a lot.