... the thing is that I still love him. The worst part is that he loves me too. But he is an idiot. He ended things up because he is jealous. He thinks that things will just get worse. But honestly, I've made changes in my life because the breakup threw me into such deep introspection, I just thought there were a number of things I could improve... Many times I felt I was not good enough for his excessive questioning about my past relationships... Yet, I love him. He was very sweet... but just like I see good and nit so good things about him, it feels he saw more bad things than good in me. š¢š¢
Last updated on:2025-11-23T20:36:11+05:30
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when he gets jealous like that, does he ever take responsibility for it or does it always turn into something you have to fix?
It was always something I had to fix, change, friends I had to stop seeing, I had to let him know where I was, when I came back home. He had a big issue with one of my male friends, he thought we couldn't be just friends, that there had to be something sexual around. These insecurities led to many arguments where I always had to explain myself, defend myself, apologize, and change things. I ended up severing my friendship because my BF made such a big issue, the slightest reference to my friend triggered massive tension in my body and anxiety. My BF was unable to trust me just because of my male friend.
stepping back and asking myself if love should feel like iām constantly defending who i was before I even knew him. itās not about blaming him, itās justā¦ noticing how your body reacts to the relationship. mine was always tired.
i was with someone who loved me but his jealousy was like this shadow over everything. heād ask about my past nonstop, like he was hunting for reasons to get insecure. i kept changing myself thinking it would finally make him feel safe. but it only made me feel ānot enough.ā that feeling you wrote aboutā¦ yeah, iāve lived that. and it hurts in a way that feels so unfair because the love was real.
I think your situation is similar to mine in that we still loved each other when we broke up.. Also the part about him seeing so much negativity in me... I know for my sanity i will never contact him again. Although I have improved myself, it was damaging to have the person I loved thinking negatively about me. Also it's best to give him the time to reflect on that.
If he was the one seeing more bad things than good in you I think it's best to leave him alone.