I recently found out that my girlfriend who I’ve been with for about a year and a half cheated on me last year. This comes just two months after I discovered she had emotionally cheated with someone from another country thousands of miles away. I was finally starting to heal from that first betrayal but learning about this second incident has made it incredibly difficult.
What makes it even more confusing is that emotionally the past two months have actually been some of the best we’ve had since the beginning of our relationship. She’s been more loving attentive and supportive than ever really showing me that she cares. And I do love her deeply which is why I’m still torn.
But I’m struggling with the fact that this isn’t the first time. Forgiving one betrayal is hard enough but two in under two years? I’m not sure I can move forward in a long-term relationship with someone who’s already broken my trust more than once.
I want to stay but I don’t know if I should. Has anyone else been through something like this? How do you know when it’s time to walk away even if your heart still wants to stay?
Last updated on:2025-11-19T17:52:03+05:30
Comments (6)
for me, what usually helps is asking myself how i feel when i’m alone and the house is quiet. if the fear and doubt are louder than the love, that tells me a lot. it doesn’t make the decision easy, but it makes it clearer.
my ex did the same double-hit thing... first the emotional cheating, then months later i found out there was a whole other thing he hid from me. i remember that exact confusion you’re talking about. how they suddenly become the “best version” of themselves right after breaking your trust. it messes with your head so bad. it’s like your heart is saying one thing and your stomach is screaming the truth. i’m really sorry you’re sitting in this. it’s a horrible place to be
when you think about a future with her, do you feel safe or do you feel like you’re waiting for the next hit? sometimes that answer says more than anything they promise.
stay until you can't stay again
i’ve never been in this situation , but i’m also going through a tough breakup . i’m only young but from what i understand is she’s broken your trust twice and that’s not what you need in a relationship . although it will hurt . you need to let her go and find someone who respects you.
may the kind of healing and peace I have right now locate you too!