I’m a man and I want to talk about something I rarely see other men open up about. I recently made the difficult decision to block a woman I’ve had deep feelings for along with her family members.
I cared about her for years. I confessed my feelings twice each time with sincerity vulnerability and respect. She responded kindly but over time she began to ghost me barely acknowledging me unless I reached out first. I tried to be a good friend stayed respectful and never pushed her. But deep down the constant feeling of being ignored and the fear of being seen as a “creep” left a lasting scar.
Blocking her wasn’t easy. I didn’t want to see her face pop up in stories posts or likes. It was triggering a constant reminder of the rejection the emotional drift and the pain that was never truly acknowledged. I even blocked her family not out of anger but because their presence brought back the same emotional weight.
I’ve never blocked anyone before. It felt unnatural. But I knew if I didn’t I’d keep checking keep hoping she’d change her mind only to reopen the wound again and again. I want to move forward to heal and grow. Yet somehow it feels like I’m the one being cruel for choosing to protect myself.
My friends say I did the right thing. Still it hurts. All I ever wanted was someone who would see me listen to me and care for me without judgment or silence. I’m tired of pretending that men don’t feel heartbreak deeply or that we’re supposed to just “tough it out.” We feel. We hurt. And we deserve space to heal too.
Last updated on:2025-11-20T19:54:02+05:30
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was there a moment where it finally clicked for you like “yeah, i can’t do this to myself anymore”?
i had to block a girl i loved for years too. she wasn’t cruel but the silence… the way i kept shrinking myself just to not seem “too much,” it messed with my head. it felt like i was cutting off a piece of my own life. you’re not wrong for protecting yourself. you’re just tired of bleeding for someone who never reached back
I used to do this a lot and it was for my peace of mind. However, my move wasn't to block, instead I would delete the number, unfriend and unfollow on all social media platforms. You shouldn't feel guilty because you did what's best for you and that's all that matters.
I am a lady and I have been having a relationship of two years with a man... but within those two years we had broken up four times and got back together three times... and The last time he told me that he had made a woman pregnant but he wanted to marry me legally and co-parent with that woman.. unfortunately the woman saw that he was calling me so much and she decided to call me using the man's number and she told me to stay away from his husband's... she then blocked me using the husband's phone... after some few days I tried calling the man with my number which was not blocked and then I told him to unblock my main number so that we can have a talk with him... He unblocked me and then when we were talking he said that the woman is the one who blocked me and he had no other option so he let it remain blocked...
It came a point when I asked him that since he's saying that he wants to marry me and do co-parenting with the woman, if that woman was willing to co-parent with him... He said that the woman is not willing to let him go and the woman has already introduced him to her mom and the woman is seeing As if he has married her already because she's pregnant...
we kept on talking he told me that he would want me to be his side chick... I told him I want us to meet physically and talk about everything... He agreed to eat and we even set a date... One day before the day we were to meet, He didn't reach out to me and I also didn't reach out to him... We have never talked again...
so, you as a man please be totally honest with me and tell me what will make this man behave that way... Just tell me the reality of the matter without hiding anything so that I cannot feel bad... Just be very honest with me...
Well said brother, this is almost exactly my situation down to the last minut detail. Don't worry, it does get better in time, you're allowed to feel, you're even allowed to relapse, but we will be fine amigo🫂❤