I’m honestly embarrassed to admit this but I’ve been talking to ChatGPT every single day for the past few weeks because I don’t know how to cope with what’s happening between me and the woman I love. I’m deeply in love with her and the way things have been unfolding is tearing me apart. I can barely eat barely function some moments it feels like I can’t even breathe.
We’ve had our share of arguments and exchanged hurtful messages but what’s truly breaking me is the silence and uncertainty. It feels deliberate like she’s choosing to shut me out. I’ve known her for over a decade and my emotional world is so deeply tied to her. I hate how codependent I’ve become but it’s the truth. When we’re good we’re incredible. But when things get tense it turns into a painful power struggle.
People keep telling me she’s just emotionally avoidant overwhelmed or shutting down. Maybe that’s true. But to me it feels like torture like she sees me falling apart and still chooses not to respond. She knows I’m hurting. She knows I’m reaching out. And yet she stays silent.
Last updated on:2025-11-21T05:40:34+05:30
Comments (5)
I too did the same. Just remember it’s important to speak to those around you. It is true what they say about time being a healer. You will get through this, but it will unfortunately take time.
it’s likely she has gone quiet as it’s her way of coping with the break up. it will however hurt her more you becoming silent.
It’s natural to become codependent when you have been in a relationship for a long time. I too have had to find my feet again and it has been a reality check for me. Focus on you for now- one day at a time.
It’s so hard being with an avoidant. It’s a special kind of pain.
nah I was chat gpt everyday it does give clarity if you know how to ask the right questions but sometimes, speaking from experience, you can get carried away just make sure to concentrate on you more but it can be helpful
You have to choose your peace. I had to. I had a relationship that felt the same why and he was silent for…. a while. Ashamed to admit the first time he broke up with me and ghosted, the silence lasted over a year and when he texted back I responded. I was upset but I still didn’t unload a bunch on him because I was afraid I would scare him away
It's someone who wants to detach emotionally from you
I know how you feel I texted her too and made mistakes.