am i actually getting over it?? like i am obviously still devestated, and i do still think about him, but it's not taking up my daily life anymore. i can actually go hours without remembering what happened, and that's insane to me.
in a way i'm relieved, but i also still want to hold the pain with him and miss him, because it's the last thing i hold with him. if i just stop, it's like it's over. and i know it has been over, but i don't want to leave him behind, even if he's already left me.
but just the fact that i can actually do this and take care of myself and laugh like i did before is amazing, but also scares me. does anyone get what i mean?
Last updated on:2025-11-24T16:54:21+05:30
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do you feel like letting the pain soften makes you feel like you’re losing the connection you had with him, or is it more about losing that version of you?
i guess kinda both. i loved the version of me that was in love with him
what helped me was letting both things be true. you can miss him and still heal. you can feel lighter and still have moments that punch you in the stomach. it doesn’t have to be all or nothing.
when my ex left, the only thing i felt like i still “had” with him was the pain. i was terrified of feeling better because it made the breakup feel real. you’re not crazy for feeling that pull
exactly, like i still want to be connected to him in some way
I’m starting to feel that way as well. not hours but a good bit of time now.
I am in that situation too where I actually have no good or bad feelings towards him and towards everything that happened. I just woke up the day before yesterday and I started having the same feeling. I never expected it to come so fast after the last breakup but it came a day after we ended things. I have actually not been believing that this is what I am feeling right now and there are moments where I try to remember him so that I can see if I actually feel whatever I am feeling right now and the feeling is just constant. I intentionally sit down and remember him and I feel nothing about it. I don't feel like crying I don't feel anything good I don't feel anything bad My feelings are just numb...