be honest with me

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I am a lady and I have been having a relationship of two years with a man, but within those two years we had broken up four times and got back together three times. The last time he told me that he had made a woman pregnant but he wanted to marry me legally and co-parent with that woman. Unfortunately, the woman saw that he was calling me so much and she decided to call me using the man's number and she told me to stay away from her husband. She then blocked me using the husband's phone. After some few days I tried calling the man with my number which was not blocked and then I told him to unblock my main number so that we can have a talk with him. He unblocked me and then when we were talking he said that the woman is the one who blocked me and he had no other option so he let it remain blocked. It came to a point when I asked him that since he's saying that he wants to marry me and do co-parenting with the woman if that woman was willing to co-parent with him. He said that the woman is not willing to let him go and the woman has already introduced him to her mom and the woman is seeing as if he has married her already because she's pregnant. We kept on talking; he told me that he would want me to be his side chick. I told him I want us to meet physically and talk about everything. He agreed to eat and we even set a date. One day before the day we were to meet, he didn't reach out to me and I also didn't reach out to him. We have never talked again. So, you as a man/woman, please be totally honest with me and tell me what will make this man behave that way. Just tell me the reality of the matter without hiding anything so that I cannot feel bad. Just be very honest with me.

Last updated on:2025-11-21T18:25:37+05:30

Comments (10)

SadEnough
SadEnough 3 mths ago

before all the pregnancy drama, did he usually take responsibility for things or was he always kinda slippery like this?

ChillPals137
ChillPals137 3 mths ago

slippery too

try2heal
try2heal 3 mths ago

he’s choosing the situation that benefits him the most. not you. not her. just himself. when i realized that with my ex, the only thing that helped me was stepping back and letting the silence answer what the words never would.

ChillPals137
ChillPals137 3 mths ago

i understand you so well... and how did things turn out at the end? tell me the story

missqta
missqta 3 mths ago

i went through something kinda similar where a guy kept bouncing between me and another woman, saying he “wanted both” and i kept trying to believe the version of him he sold me, not the one he kept showing me. the part that hit me was him letting her block you and then acting like he had no say. that’s the same helpless act my ex pulled. it’s not confusion. it’s convenience. and it hurts like hell to see it that clearly.

ChillPals137
ChillPals137 3 mths ago

I am so happy I am not the only one who has gone thru that...how did your story end?

Its0me0not0U
Its0me0not0U 3 mths ago

I’m sorry to say, but I think this guy wanted his cake and eat it. It’s so sad to hear that a unborn child is being brought in to a family where there will be no trust. I honestly think you have had a lucky escape. If he can do this to a pregnant women he can do this to anyone.
This experience will certainly open your eyes in your next relationship. You definitely deserve more!!

ChillPals137
ChillPals137 3 mths ago

and mind you this woman who is pregnant was the best friend to his ex...

Tearbit
Tearbit 3 mths ago

this man is a player. stay away from him.

ChillPals137
ChillPals137 3 mths ago

I even asked him If I was the one who was pregnant would he go behind my back with his ex... guess what... he said yes...