I am from the netherlands. I loved my boyfriend so much and felt so safe with him, i have been very sick and he pulled me trough, i never felt alone. But he never showed up when i was alone, he cheated once and gambled all his money. I forgave him and gave it my all to show him i was worth his love.
But after a year he started to see his friends more, he didnt make any time for me. Thats when i started to try even harder to show him i wanted to be loved, we had many talks and nothing ever changed. Then one morning i found out he lied about something small and thats when something snapped in me. I went home.
After two days i was ready to talk and wanted him back. But he needed time he said. So one week later i saw him on the same party as me. He came to me and kissed me and said he wanted me back. So i was so relieved. But after an hour he started to question his choice and said he needed more time. He would text me in the morning he said. But never did, thats when i blocked him.
He still can contact me on instagram, but hè didnt. One of my friends said that the boy never told his friends about the break up, so is there hope? What do i need to do? I can only see the good things
We were searching for a home in his town. I loved that town and saw my whole future there for three years. I had so many friends. His family, the drive to his house. I loved it all. How do I deal with that?
Last updated on:2025-11-22T03:37:33+05:30
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before that moment you snapped and left, did you already feel like you were fighting alone to keep the relationship alive?
yes!! so much!! always crying when he was with me because I didn’t understand him. also a lot of crying when he wasn’t there!
i try to focus on what’s real and not on what i hoped it would become. letting myself grieve the future i built in my head helps more than pretending it didn’t matter.
i dated a guy who pulled me through my worst sickness too, and that “safe” feeling made me hold on way past the point he stopped showing up for me. same thing… he cheated once, lied about small stuff, kept choosing his friends over me. i remember that exact snap you mentioned, like something in your chest just gives up. and then the whiplash of him kissing you one moment and doubting it an hour later. that kind of back and forth messes with your sense of reality. you’re not wrong for being confused or craving the version of him that felt like home
how are you doing now? is still reflect on the things that i did wrong, and feel a big urge to text him. it feels like i got ghosted. do you think it will get better?