Well it's day 37 since I last tried to reach out but day 51 since we ended things. Won't lie I miss him at times. I can say I've healed because I no longer feel the pain, I no longer feel like I lost. My problem is insecurity. I've been flirting with this dude and idk but I normally feel the need to withdraw because I don't want him to me too much to a point he'll put me back in the same place my ex did. The guy out his intentions and I was happy and excited. I know I want him but I lied that I just want him to be my friend. A little help here
Last updated on:2025-11-25T06:21:14+05:30
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do you feel like you’re scared of him liking you too much, or scared of you liking him too much?
I'm scared of liking him too much. Once I'm into someone I give it my all and I normally feel like that is a problem.
i try to slow things down instead of shutting down. like… letting myself like someone in tiny pieces so it doesn’t feel like i’m handing them my whole heart at once.
how do I do that?? like/love someone without giving them my all
i did the same thing after my last breakup. this guy liked me and i literally panicked because my ex messed with my sense of safety. i kept pulling away even though i wanted him too
what'd you do eventually??
I'm afraid but at the same time I want to experience love again.
please don't rush into anything, it's only been 51/37 days so even though you feel healed it could potentially be down to the fact you have someone else in your sights so it's easier to forget your ex. Enjoy this new guy, yes, but I'm also glad you're holding back and not giving everything so soon. Just enjoy eachother for now and if it's meant to be it will be.
what do you mean by enjoy eachother?
@BraveNew475 enjoy getting to know eachother. enjoy not having a label as a couple. enjoy being able to relax in eachothers company. enjoy not having any pressure on you.