I just ended things with him even though he’s truly the love of my life. I’m 25 and he was the first person I ever really fell for when I was 24. I realized he was the one the moment he looked at me differently. He’s gentle and he’s been through just as much as I have. I loved him despite being broken myself despite everything life has done to me.
I walked away because I feel like I’m too much for him he deserves someone simple someone with a bright smile who can make his life easier. And even though I know I should keep my distance I still want him... I want us.. I want to try again… but I also know it would end the same way.
How do I stop wanting someone I know I’ll never hate and will never truly forget?
Last updated on:2025-11-24T18:37:02+05:30
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when you say it would “end the same way,” what part of the ending feels inevitable to you? the feeling of being too much, or something he did, or something between you both?
the only thing that’s ever helped me in this exact place was reminding myself that wanting someone doesn’t mean they’re right for my peace. i let myself miss him, like actually miss him without trying to fix it, and the wanting softened a bit on its own. you don’t have to force yourself to “stop wanting” right now. just try not to feed the urge every time it spikes.
i walked away from the guy i thought was my forever too, not because he was bad but because i felt “too much” and he felt “too good.” i kept thinking he deserved someone lighter, someone who wasn’t carrying all my old pain. it broke me in a way i still don’t fully have words for. so yeah… i get that whole “i want him but i also know how it ends” feeling in my bones
it's better to end things the way you did than to continue when you know you don't feel complete as a person—you could have ended hurting yourself, him, or both. it takes a lot of self awareness to do what you did and it shows a testament to your love for him. you could have stayed in something built to fail, but you loved him and wanted the best for him, so you left. focus on yourself now as much as you can. find yourself in a place that's not built on the pain of your past. take yourself on dates and get to know you. maybe you can find each other again in the future, maybe it was for a season or a reason as painful as that can be to accept. you'll figure things out with time as excruciating as it can be—believe me, I know. you'll be okay. please be kind to yourself.
what was the reason the relationship wasn't working?
has he been reaching out to you?
how do I stop begging him. begged him so much. he just told me to fuck off.