I have noted that I have been tolerating men a lot. A man would text me or call me and then go for a whole 3 days without talking to me and when he text me or calls me again I am there ready to chat with him and answer his phone call.... I decided that, that is being cheap and too available and kind of desperate... so I decided to change... any man that's is not consistent with me DAILY will never have my time or attention at all... I just ignored a phone call from a certain man yesterday at night and I am so proud of myself for implementing the changes... I can't wait to ignore more
Last updated on:2025-11-24T21:29:12+05:30
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do you notice a specific moment where you start feeling that pull to respond again? like is it loneliness, boredom, or just the old habit kicking in?
no I don't have such feelings... once I delete, that's it - it's gone
every time i felt tempted to answer, i’d just pause for a minute and ask myself how i felt the last time he went silent.
exactly 💯
i did the same thing with this guy who’d pop in whenever he was bored, disappear for days, then come back like nothing happened. it made me feel small and i hated that i kept picking up anyway. breaking that pattern was messy but damn it felt powerful the first time i didn’t jump. proud of you fr
but it kind of feels like I am expecting too much and yet that man is not even a boyfriend and is currently not showing any interest in me... so I kind of feel like I want him to behave like somebody who wants me yet he has not said that he wants me... It makes me feel like I want him to be texting me daily like somebody who is dating me or somebody who wants me yet he has not said that he wants me...
There was a time, when I was like that too, even for friends.It's just sometimes we fail to recognise our own value and let people crush us. Kudos to you for finding your self worth and sticking to it 💓