has anybody experienced such changes?

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Just a while ago I was so much into having a relationship and dating... but with time I am not into that pressure and hurry of getting into a relationship... I have known that it is that serious because my friend asked me this morning when I am going to get into a relationship and I got so annoyed... and even after her asking me that question I really didn't feel the pressure of getting into a relationship... I just told her that I will get a man, even though I don't know when... and I am so happy because just the other day I was having a pressure of dating but right now I'm just very much patient...

Last updated on:2025-11-24T21:22:03+05:30

Comments (12)

EmptyInside
EmptyInside 3 mths ago

did something specific happen that made you chill out about it, or did it just slowly change over time?

ChillPals137
ChillPals137 3 mths ago

I was in that state where I was already pissed off and I was waiting for him to do one last thing that would make me be completely pissed off with him... so I was kind of tired but he also did something that made me completely get tired...

lilyy
lilyy 3 mths ago

whenever i stop worrying about “when” and just live my life, the pressure kinda fades on its own. staying in that patient headspace is way easier when you remind yourself you’re not late to anything.

ChillPals137
ChillPals137 3 mths ago

I love the way it came naturally 🤩

Breathless
Breathless 3 mths ago

i went through a phase where everyone around me was dating and i was literally forcing myself to “keep up.” then something shifted and i just… stopped rushing. that peace hits different when you finally stop running after a timeline that isn’t even yours

ChillPals137
ChillPals137 3 mths ago

it's the peace for me ♥️ and the hope that yours is on the way coming 💐

Mekdi
Mekdi 3 mths ago

I also feel i have to be with someone... how did you stop thinking that, I also need help on that.

ChillPals137
ChillPals137 3 mths ago

mine came naturally.. I think it's because of the constant disappointment from men until I just became disgusted and not wanting to be in a relationship...

Mekdi
Mekdi 3 mths ago

@ChillPals137 I used to be like that before, I used to hate men as soon as they betray me or sth... now I just want to be with someone else as soon I have broken up... I wish I can be like you

ChillPals137
ChillPals137 3 mths ago

@Mekdi I have been that person of moving on immediately after breaking up and to be very honest with you it's never works... The moment you move on with somebody and then you heal from the heartbreak caused by your ex you start hating the person that you moved on with... and then you end up breaking up with him... and then you move on immediately to somebody else and the process continues

usermkj28
usermkj28 3 mths ago

It’s okay , don’t rush it . If you’re not ready then you’re not ready . Jusr take it one day at a time and eventually you will build up your confidence you put yourself out there again .

ChillPals137
ChillPals137 3 mths ago

exactly