what do you do when you try to break up and they threaten to hurt themselves or leave earth? I know this is a form of manipulation and emotional abuse, but I'm scared he might actually do it. I told him to seek help. gave him the 988 number. I don't know what else to do. what if he goes thru with it? I'm panicking
Last updated on:2025-11-24T21:02:03+05:30
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did he ever say things like this before when things didn’t go his way, or is this the first time he’s used it when you tried to leave?
when i get hit with that panic, i try to remind myself i’m not responsible for someone else’s choices. you already gave him the number, you pointed him toward help. sometimes the only thing that helps me breathe is telling myself “i can care, but i can’t control.”
Tell the people who live near him maybe his friends his neighbors or his parents so that they can talk to him or actually check up on him..
my ex used to say stuff like that every time i tried to leave and it messed with my head for months. i remember sitting there shaking because i didn’t know if it was a threat or a cry or a trap. it’s such a heavy kind of fear to carry alone and i’m really sorry you’re in it
Its not your job to fix him. Its his resposability to take care of hinself. Be careful that he dosnt twist it around and actully hurt you instead. Tell him to be around his family and friends where he prehaps can sleep at a friend or a familys house for a while so he wont be alone and have a safe space to be at where their is company and someone to talk to. But its not your job to fix althought you might love him. But be careful of yourself to.
I agree. I'm afraid he talks this way to manipulate me into coming back. and though I know it's not my job to fix him, I'm scared I play a vital role. I ended up telling his friends to go check on him.
@SwiftBeat206 Good. I understand that you are afraid. This was someone you loved once. Its hard and you get scared about what he will do. Good that you told his friends. 🥰
thank you. I did tell him I could call an ambulance and he just cried. if he continues, I will have to call someone to do a wellness check
My friend was in such situatuon and he called the police. he described the situation to them and they actually helped. found the guy and got him checked and the doctor and all. it was a very serious situation and the treated it as such. You can do call them to, or an ambulanse. remeber that whatever he does there is only as much as you can do. If he doesnt help/sace himself no one will.