something that really hurts is that they don't know the full story. his family are spreading things about me, saying i'm "crazy for liking him so much and chasing him" but he did come back for a short period of time.
but none of the things i did were crazy. i was just so in love, and when you're in love, you'll do anything.
i'm a people pleaser, and for what i thought was the love of my life's parents to hate me, that made me feel physically sick.
i baked them brownies, i stressed about what to talk to them about, what to call them, i was almost crying trying to get ready on time so they wouldn't be waiting on me, be to seem presentable enough, but not too much so that i would be seen as upstanding them. i stressed before there was things to stress about. i genuinely cared. so much.
and now they just think i'm his insane ex.
Last updated on:2025-11-26T06:23:13+05:30
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do you feel like he ever defended you to them, or did he kind of let their version of you become the “truth”?
i think he did say some things about me when we broke up before he realised it was miscommunication and then tried to convince his parents but by that point they had decided they didn't like me
when people already decided their version of you, even love can’t rewrite that. what helped me a bit was reminding myself that families protect their own and they rewrite things to make it easier for them to blame you. it sucks, but it’s not about who you really are.
i went through something so similar where his whole family decided i was “too much” and “obsessed” when i was literally just trying to be loved and accepted. i remember baking for them, showing up early, trying so hard to not give them any reason to dislike me. it messes with your head when you’re just loving someone and suddenly you’re the “crazy” one. you’re not insane. you were in it. i get it.
thank youm and someones parents will love you because of the amount of love you give their child