I was consumed with feelings of low self-esteem because of something that wasn't even related to the relationship. I've known my brain pattern and temparement because I've studied myself a lot. Anytime I'm feeling down over something, he was the first person I told,he gave me comfort not that he did or said any grand thing but my brain was already accustomed to the emotional routine and habit and that my friends is what is hard to get over.
I literally thought that two days ago (13th day of no contact) I was already 50 percent healed, I was begining to deidealize him and unromanticize him that I thought maybe a call isn't bad he was the first person I ran to anytime something bugged me. I called him, hearing his voice and everything reopened the wound. I won't say the feelings came back though just the attachment. it's like a wound finally healing then you mistakenly scratch it or pick it enough for it to reopen or hurt again. I'm not weak ,my brain already affiliated him as comfort and that's the hardest part of moving on. Cuz what do you mean he's no longer a favourite person what do you mean he's going to be suddenly indifferent to me one day. Now I don't know if I should restart the no contact or if I'm already making progress and it was just a slip up.
Has anyone been on crossroads like this please I need reassurance.
Last updated on:2025-11-25T18:12:03+05:30
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when you heard his voice, did he actually do anything comforting… or was it just the old pattern kicking in?
i did the same thing with my ex, he was my “person” for every tiny emotional spiral. i wasn’t even missing him, i was missing the version of me that felt safe when he picked up the phone. the first call after no contact shattered me too. you’re not weak at all, it’s literally just your brain reaching for the old comfort
what should I do to reset it
cuz I don't think I can block him again
I did the same thing today after 13 days of no contact 😔
what are you doing now about it 🥺
i understand what you mean when you say he was apart of your emotional routine , my ex was apart of mine . i’d cry to him on call when i was overwhelmed and i’d text him anytime something upset me , even if it was small . I think by calling him, you did break no contact , but that’s nor your fault . it’s hard to just stop speaking to someone who helped your mental health so much , especially when they were one of your favourite people . I’m going through the same with my ex , i almost texted him when i was crying but i had to stop myself . eventually , you will find new ways to accustom yourself to helping your sadness but right now it will be hard.
your so strong , remember that💓
😞♥️