I broke my no contact today after 13 days. I unblocked him a sent him a message just saying I missed him, but I instantly blocked him again before he could read it and I'm scared to unblock him to see if he responded. Why did I message if his response makes me so anxious?
Last updated on:2025-11-27T06:14:07+05:30
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what part of you do you think wanted him to see “i miss you,” and what part of you got scared right after?
I think I wanted the fantasized version of him to see the I miss you & the part of me that got scared was the reality
when i get that anxious about a response, it usually means i wasn’t reaching out for him. i was reaching out for relief. sometimes i just sit with the urge and let it pass because the crash afterward is always worse for me.
yeah I feel stupid for doing it
i did the exact same thing with my ex. i’d block him, miss him like crazy, send something soft, then panic and disappear again. it wasn’t even about him. it was about the ache and wanting it to shut up for one second.
it happens when you're scared of what he might say
I did exactly the same, it was killing me not knowing if he'd tried to make contact with me so I unblocked him to ask.and I wasn't surprised but gutted to read he hadn't even attempted to contact me in the 2 weeks he was blocked so had no idea I'd blocked him.It just felt like it was a waste of time as it doesn't look like he'll message me if I don't message him first.
I guess that's telling of what we really need and it not being met by them
@Satanslove yes, I agree but it doesn't make my pain any less knowing he can live without me as easily as he does. but I'm starting the process over again and praying it will feel easier now I know where I stand with him....gutted but needed
it’s okay!! forgive yourself for messaging him but look at it as a lesson. you don’t need a reply you don’t need to unblock him what you need is to look after yourself and delete his contact or keep him unblocked