Me and my ex are both 23, we were together for 3.5 years. we recently travelled in New Zealand and Australia for 6 months and since we came home I have found hes been very immature and a complete mommies boy he runs everything past her. to him he thought spending time with me was when he was playing games on the PlayStation and I was on the couch. I love him to bits even though I didn’t like the way I was being treated only realised it after speaking to others. before we broke up I had ordered a picture book with all of our travel memories I don't know whether to show him now. We have the same friend group so we decided we will always be friends but I don't know whether to show him the book or not. Hes un his final year of college and I feel like that has also changed him. We broke up 2.5 weeks ago and I only started no contact 2 days ago. Should I show it to him in 3 weeks time after his exams or not show him at all. when I asked him did he see a future with me he hesitated and said right now I'm closing the relationship but he always told me he saw long term with me
Last updated on:2025-11-26T15:42:41+05:30
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what do you feel in your gut when you picture handing him that book… does it feel like closure or does it feel like hoping he’ll come back?
I dont know to be honest. He knew before we broke up I had it ordered, its not like it was a waste of 3 years so I presume he'd like to see it. Its not just him and I in it. There's pictures of him with others too. My mind is all over the place its also cold and flu season here in Ireland so im suffering from a headcold :(
the book is beautiful but i’d keep it with you for now. every time i tried to give my ex something sentimental after the breakup it just reopened wounds for both of us. letting a little more distance settle usually makes it obvious what to do. you don’t have to rush it.
Thats a true point to be fair. We're gonna be seeing each other in person at our friends birthday party that probably won't be good either will it? Its on two weeks after his exams are over. She's more my friend than his. She's also dating a friend who is friends with myself and my ex. It makes things complicated
i was with someone who also ran every tiny thing through his mom and i didn’t even see how sidelined i felt until after we broke up. i remember wanting to give him this scrapbook i made of our trips and it took me ages to admit it would’ve hurt me more than it would’ve meant anything to him. i feel the same ache in what you wrote… that thing where you love them so much you ignore how small they made your world feel.
Your so right. It actually feels so good to talk to others about what your going through in life and hearing others may be in a similar position to you. Since we came home from our travels I felt all his attention went from me to helping his mom with every single thing even when I was at his house and his family are a very family orientated family where they like to do things just themselves and I felt left out to be honest