I am doing all the things that one could to do to move on, self-care, journal, reading on self-help books, feel the feels. Some days I feel like I'm fine and I have noticed that he's on my mind less and less, then out of nowhere a memory come up and I'll be a wreck again. How do I know if I have truly move on or will this be how I feel forever?
Last updated on:2025-11-26T23:01:34+05:30
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when those memories hit, is it like missing him or missing the version of yourself you were with him? sometimes that difference says a lot about where you actually are.
I'm curious what does the difference says about where I am? For me I guess its a mix of both. I miss him because he was my best friend and he is so funny and loveable. I miss the version of me when we're together where I'm happy and sure about the future. At the same time I don't miss the version of me when I was feeling insecure and emotionally immature that ultimately led to me hurting him. It's such a complicated feeling.
noticing the trend not the bad day. like… are the crashes getting a little less intense, a little less frequent. that’s usually the real sign you’re moving on even if it doesn’t feel clean or perfect
i did the same routine… journaling, walks, all of it. i’d be totally okay for a week then one stupid memory would knock me out for a whole day. it honestly scared me because it felt endless. but it wasn’t. it was just my brain catching up to what happened
ride the waves as they come. that's the only way, unfortunately. time heals all wounds—even if it can be an agonizing, non-linear journey, it's worth it.
When you finally start to get over it, it comes with a roller coaster of emotions, sometimes you'll feel like you're perfect and tomorrow you'll cry because you remembered something beautiful. Don't overthink much about it because it's a normal healing process, of course with time it will stop hurting as much as it does now and it will just be a memory in your head that won't break you anymore❤️