I met him at work in January and from the moment I met him I knew I was really interested. At the time he was dating a different girl (they dated for 7 months)so me and him didn’t really talk, but they broke up at around end of August and that’s when me and him became friends. He broke up with her because he got this feeling where he just wants to be single and I think he stopped liking her for a while I’m not too sure. Anyways we talked all the time at work after they broke up and eventually I asked for his snap and we started talking and it went really well. I knew his last relationship wasn’t that long ago and when I asked him if he would date anyone atm he reassured me that he would. We went on a date, then started dating officially, and on the second date I lost my v card. I loved him and everything was going really well as in we would hang out every couple of days and text and call a lot. Then I started overthinking for a day so I asked him about it when we hanged out and he reassured me saying that I’m just overthinking it. 2 days later he broke up me. We were only really together for about 3 weeks. The reason of break up was cause he said that he got that feeling again that he wants to have single time and that his last relationship wasn’t too long ago so yea he wants single time. We’ve texted every day since the break up and agreed that he’s having some single time now but we will try again in December. It was clear that we weren’t just friends and then after around a month we hanged out again last week ana the week before. We had sex again but before we did I gave him a mini speech about how I want to know if we will still try again in December and he said yeah ofc and promised me we will. Everything seemed good. Then after one of the hangouts a couple days later which was a couple days ago I statyed overthinking a bit since he seemed off. We talked and he said he has very mixed emotions and doesn’t know what he wants. I asked him to elaborate and he said that he doesn’t know if he likes me but at the same time sometimes he can’t stop thinking about me. It is confusing since this happened Friday and then on Saturday he told me how he was going to eat chicken at kfc (he got a new job there cause he got fired from where we worked together) and how he wishes that was me instead (me instead of the chicken). which was confusing since the day before he was super mixed yk. We talked and agreed to stay just friends for now, not hangout for like 2 weeks so he can think about what he wants, and we still will text everyday but not as much. This is what we decided on. And he will let me know in December if we still will try again or not. But it seems like we will? It’s a bit confusing. I genuinely love him and I want to do anything to make it work, but at the same time I feel like I’m always the one that’s putting in the effort to plan hang outs or text first. Everyone that I have asked said I shouldn’t get back with him, but I really love him and I still want to wait until December just to see. But I don’t want to always be the only one putting in effort yk. What do u guys think I should do?
Last updated on:2025-12-02T23:04:46+05:30
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when you picture december… what do you imagine actually happening? like what’s the outcome you’re hoping for and does it line up with how he’s been treating you so far?
Thank you this actually made me think about it clearer. Before this when I pictured December I just thought me and him being back together would make everything happy and great yk. But now I think just because me and him get back together doesn’t mean that he will start putting effort in or treating me like a girlfriend that he loves. If we do end up trying again in December do u think I should tell him first about what my intentions are and outcomes that I’m hoping for, so if his intentions are different then we can agree to not get back together which would avoid another heartbreak.
the only thing that’s ever helped me in situations like this is pulling my energy back a bit. not in a petty way. just giving myself space so i’m not constantly guessing what someone else feels. it kinda shows you real quick who actually shows up without being chased.
When you pull your energy back and give yourself space, do you end up moving on from them, or does it help not always think about what their feeling about you? Also do you think I should move on from him now and not try again or should I still wait until December but slowly move on now so in case it doesn’t work out I’m not too hurt by it? (also thanks for replying to my post :)
ugh i felt this so hard. i had a guy who kept doing the same “i like you… wait no… actually maybe… idk” thing and it messed with my head so bad. the mixed signals, the promises, the sex, the “i’m not ready” talk. it made me feel like i was always waiting for him to pick me. your story feels like that same ache.
Omg thank you so much for this. It actually helps hearing from someone who’s been in something similar. Yeah the mixed signals really mess with your head and sometimes my overall mood just depends on how his mood is towards me that day. I’m trying to focus on myself for now and not wait around too much. Thank you for taking the time to reply 🫶🏼
awh baby i feel so sorry for you but i love you and you can talk to me whenever
Ilysm 💗
my dear
you dont deserve this guy! you deserve much better.
Thank u sm for saying this. I think deep down I know I deserve better effort too and want someone who puts in an equal amount of effort. I’m trying to take things slower now. ☺️
@Sunnyflower Yes you got this.
whenever u want to vent, I am here.
oh boy!...frankly speaking you should run as fast as you can from this guy because he is playing with you and just want that access to you. if he really wanted the relationship with you or wanted to pursue you he would never make you doubt about his intentions and play with you like this. so take your self respect back and run..
Thank you for your honesty. I really needed outside perspectives on this. I’m going to try slowly move on now just so if December doesn’t end up working out I won’t be too crushed by it. I also think that if he genuinely wanted a relationship he wouldn’t make it so confusing or need “single time” until a certain month. Thank u for taking ur time to reply :)