I’m in so much pain right now and don’t know what to do.
I met a guy who told me he liked me and wanted us to date. I liked him too so I agreed. We started spending time together almost every evening simple walks long talks just getting to know each other. Nothing physical happened we never kissed or had sex.
But about a week or two in he asked me to sleep with him. For me that felt like a red flag. It seemed too soon and I’ve always believed that if someone truly has long-term intentions they wouldn’t rush into sex. So I refused and eventually I decided to break up with him. Honestly it was a rushed decision.
Now a month later things feel different. At first I didn’t even like him that much but over time I realized I was actually falling for him ironically after I had already ended things. I reached out apologized and asked if we could try again. When we broke up I told him we could still be friends so we stayed on friendly terms.
But when I asked him to give us another chance he said When I asked to sleep with you you thought my intentions were only sex. If that’s what you believed then don’t blame yourself you were right. And if you were right then there’s no reason to get back together. He also told me he loved me past present and future but that he can’t date me again because I ended the relationship and he’s moved on. He said he now sees me as a friend almost like family and going back to dating would be too difficult.
That broke me because after reflecting for a month I realized I truly love him. Maybe it was loneliness maybe clarity but now I genuinely want him back. I want to fix things. But he doesn’t. He says he still loves me so why won’t he take me back?
What should I do? Do I just walk away? I feel like I’ve already begged enough and I can’t lower myself any further.
Duing the month we were apart I didn’t date anyone else. I kept hoping he’d reach out and try to mend things but he never did. So I finally reached out myself and got rejected.
Last updated on:2025-11-27T03:41:44+05:30
Comments (3)
he could have just had sex with you and then just cut off. some test you to see how far you will give them access, use and abuse you, you did the right thing to set your boundaries. it would have hurt more if you gave in and he took advantage of your self values. Just wash your hands and dust it off your minds. his not worth it. if he can't respect your choice.
Let's be real, you guys were going out for two weeks. I'm not one to tell anyone if that constitutes a relationship or not, but let's be real, 2 weeks is nothing. That's usually what it takes from talking to get a date in the first place.
You have done everything you could and nothing wrong if you feel some red flag and make distance not you but anyone feel too quick to have physical it is just two weeks and not focus on much this
He already spund like he moved and don't have any intention to get back in that way so better for you as well