so I brought up no contact and we started over a week ago...
but it was out of hurt and anger...
there was no "closure" talk or "if there is a future for us"...
now its slowly becoming and starting to feel more real, mostly because I told one of my best friends, and she kind of works for him, most of my friends do and I haven't told anyone else, only her. i dont know if he told people, and i dont know if we are telling people, what are we telling them, do we say our own stories, do I break no contact so that we can align stories, because we have friends in the same circle...
should I break no contact for closure, honestly I feel like this is a clean break, its not toxic, I still love him, he still loves me, but realistically it is for the best you know...
so should I break no contact so that we can just clear the air ?????
Last updated on:2025-12-01T04:46:12+05:30
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do you feel like you want closure for you, or just because you’re scared of how the friend circle might interpret things?
at first it was because of the friend circle, but now im starting to realise i really need it too, although I REALLY don't wanna break my streak 😭
if it were me, i’d stay quiet for a bit. the urge to “align stories” usually comes from panic, not clarity. give yourself a little space until your head isn’t buzzing like this.
when me and my ex ended things we didn’t do the whole “closure talk” either, it just… stopped. i remember spiraling about what our friends would think and if our stories would match. that weird mix of love and letting go is so heavy.
if you're left with a lot of confusion and he is willing, yes, so you can move forward with whatever you need to go.
If you feel it will help you do it, definitely. Just be sure its realy just for your own closure
when me and my ex broke up we did no contact but because I had many questions for closure it was killing me, so I broke it met up got my closure and now we are doing no contact under good terms and also for a possible shot in the future. when that will be idk but its patience
that is what I am doing, I’m breaking no contact for my own closure and so that I can move on or know the future