Broken up 3 weeks 💔 6 days no contact, he started the no contact without speaking with me. Last time I saw him he said see you around. I don't know what to do this is the worst I've felt so far. I just want to message him and start again but that is not going to work. we were together 3.5 years he told me that I was his first love. He was my first ever boyfriend and we share the same friend group and its one of the girls birthdays in January I don't know how I am going to handle this. I am struggling big time this week 😪 I want to break the no contact so badly.
Last updated on:2025-12-02T18:34:26+05:30
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how were things between you both in those last few weeks before the breakup? like did it feel sudden to you or were there cracks showing already?
We realised we were at the stage where we were planning for the future and we both had different plans originally but I didn't think it would end this way. He said our breakup wasn't what he wanted but what he needs. Broke up nearly 4 weeks ago currently on day 8 no contact he started NC we hadn't discussed it previously i just followed without questioning
when i got hit with that urge to break no contact, i used to just tell myself “i can message him tomorrow”… and then repeat it the next day. it kinda helped me get through the worst waves without actually reaching out.
my ex dipped into no contact without warning too and that “see you around” line haunted me for weeks. i remember feeling like my whole body was glitching. it’s so damn hard when they were your first everything
If he wants to contact you, he will.
do not break no contact. you deserve better.
True statement, he still has things belonging to me and Christmas is coming up and our friends will want to do a few things and just because we're broken up i don't think its fair on me to be missing out on things. so I might message him to meet me on the 18th December his exams would be over by then
@BrightSide768 protect your hurt from pain dear.
the worst thing you can do right now is to break the no contact, because he asked for that "distance" let him go, if you contact him now his ego will go wild and you won't get the reaction you expect or want - you'll hurt yourself for no reason, now just let time take its course because that's really the only way to make things work out
He still has some of my stuff so I'm debating messaging him on the 18th December because our friends will want to do stuff over Christmas and just because we broke up i don't think its fair on me to be missing out on things.
i know you do want to break the nc so bad right now. you're at the peak of emotions at this moment and believe me i did break it 2 types. which it did nothing but hurt my God damn heart again, and boost his ego. but now he's spiralling and feeling the breakup deeply so if you still want him back you got too give him the space and time to feel the loss of you. if you break it though that won't happen because he still has you under control and gave him a sense of comfort for you sticking around.
I am so afraid that hes moving on so quickly he said we will always be friends he's out drinking with his friends who are also my friends every weekend and one of the girls joins too i feel isolated from the group. I've cried every night this week missing him even though he didn't treat me 100% he was a bit immature. I can't stop myself from checking his snapscore and socials to see if hes online. He only lives 10 minutes away from me too its annoying I just wish I was happy and not feeling this way so close to Christmas. I have been out myself except this weekend because I've been sick with the flu its cold and flu season in Ireland. His friend told ne last weekend hes 'FINE' and the week previous i was told hes struggling more than you think. I dont know I just feel like I cant cope right now with everything
@BrightSide768 i know i understand it's must be really difficult for you dear. with the situations and complexity of the relationship you had with him and your friend group and all. and also it feels extremely lonely specially the holiday seasons,but as your friend told you if you try to minimise the stalking for the healing process. since he's distracting himself right now with the going out drinking and may be even a rebound, after these distractions fades out he will be hit with the grief of the emptiness you left with him to process..if you stay strong and not contact. you can rest assured on that. it's better for you to not accept the friendship atleast right now because it'll prolong your healing journey and mess you up even more... but after 3 to 4 weeks you would feel much better and you will look the relationship in clarity so you can decide if you really want him back or not.