struggling bad.

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I've made it to day 25 but its still no easier than days 1! not a moment goes by im not thinking about my ex thats whether they're with someone else again, whether thats hoping theyre working on themselves, whether they're thinking constantly like me, whether deep down theyre waiting like me. when did others feel everything just a little less because honestly its consuming me day and night 😭😭😭

Last updated on:2025-12-01T18:58:34+05:30

Comments (10)

urcrushh
urcrushh 3 mths ago

are your thoughts mostly about missing them, or more about missing the version of the future you pictured with them?

TR93
TR93 3 mths ago

honestly both! I miss the good times because when it was good i was never happier. I miss the laughter, the warmth that closeness. I also do miss the future we had planned. I feel our memories are just tainted so I miss the past that I guess wasn't real at least not for them xx

tenButt01
tenButt01 3 mths ago

when i hit like day 30 of no contact with my ex it still felt like day 1 for me. my brain was stuck on every possible “what if” and it was exhausting. you’re not crazy for feeling like this

TR93
TR93 3 mths ago

glad to know im not alone in feeling this way at least x

cutiefoxxo
cutiefoxxo 3 mths ago

girl same !!! im only 14 days, honestly week one was easier than week 2 I feel like in week 1 I was so filled with rage and anger that I didn't have time to miss him
and now that it has settled down, it has consumed me !!! every moment its him, I try to distract myself, find new hobbies, work on the old hobbies I've let go of, learn new habits, working out, spending time with friends and family, what i think helped me the most this week was talking to the camera and speaking about my "healing journey", which in fact will not be seen by anyone, so I can be as raw as I want to be, cry, laugh, and just visualize the healed version of myself. some people do the same thing with journeying in books while enjoing nature / perhaps typing out their feelings and thoughts in their favourtie coffee shop... romantacise the healing process ✨️ ( hope you feel better girl )

TR93
TR93 3 mths ago

I think that romanticising it is a good idea! my tattoo artist has told me i just need to gas light myself into it rather than letting my ex gaslight me back 🤣 im same I've tried building new habits and new hobbies and old hobbies. nothing is helping! xx

SparkByte720
SparkByte720 3 mths ago

same here..but you have to stop thinking about him, if he truly loved you,then he would've never hurt you and let you go.

TR93
TR93 3 mths ago

the logical side of my brain gets that but my heart just cant let go and I wish I could xx

BraveXOXO278
BraveXOXO278 3 mths ago

I’m feeling the same. Next week will be 1 month since we split. We spoke last week and I feel like I’m back to square one. I want to know if they’ve just forgotten about me or if I’m on their mind as much as they are on mine!

TR93
TR93 3 mths ago

same time frame as me but been completely no contact. whenever we've split before my ex wouldn't leave me alone and would pull me back in with sorrys and promises of change and this time they've just completely not called, emailed, or any of the other ways they'd normally contact so my brain cant stop thinking allsorts and its driving me crazy x