I've been working on my issues since the relationship ended almost a month ago. I have made several breakthroughs in therapy, and looking back, I'm ashamed at how little self-awareness and emotional maturity I had. Now, with more reflection and clarity, I understand his pain. I also have flashbacks of when he treated me coldly during the relationship and I did not address it. Would it be a bad idea for me to reach out to take accountability for my part? I'm not hoping to reconcile; I just want to say my peace then move forward (although a small part of me does hope for that). He did say during our last conversation that we can check in on each other, and if it is meant to be, it will be. And I can tell we still have a lot of love for each other.
Should I reach out, or wait longer to reach out? Or should I not reach out at all?
Last updated on:2025-12-02T08:01:36+05:30
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do you feel like you want to reach out for him, or because the silence is starting to feel heavy for you?
I was getting used to the silence. I think I just want to say my peace and tell him what I reflected on I guess.
I’ve been there. you want to say how you feel. but what reaction do you expect back? i think you still have hope. but by breaking the contact you will cross your self respect boundry. if he wants contact, he will. if he misses you, he will contact you. i know you want to say your part, but what will it fix, do you really want to lower your boundries AGAIN for this boy? i was exactly is the place you were, but the tiktok videos of @peaceofdeace gave me a lot of clarity! so maybe you can look into that! right now all you can do is to protect your peace and focus on the truth of his actionsYou deserve someone who chooses you clearly, consistently, and proudly.....not someone who keeps you waiting in pain. You’re not losing love… you’re losing confusion which is gaining clarity!!! 🫂🙏
I've decided to sit on it and see if I still feel the need to after some time, so I know this is not impulsive
sometimes the urge to “take accountability” is really just me wanting closeness again. give yourself a little more time before you decide.
i went through something so similar and god… the clarity hits so much harder after the breakup. i remember wanting to reach out just to own my part too. that shame-reflection loop is BRUTAL