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My ex broke the no contact rule

I just got out in an abusive 3 year relationship. He was my first boyfriend. At first everything was fine, he's sweet and gave me gifts but like they always say "nothing last forever". He is manipulative and always gaslights me. He doesn't let me go out with my friends like I used to, and there's even a time that he got jealous of my cousin.

I was blinded by love that I always over explain everything to him. He's also a lazy person who doesn't want to get a job so I always provide his meals and financials. Like I said, I was blinded by my love for him so I always give what I can give.

But last November he broke up with me. I went on vacation with my friends and he got furious that he broke up with me. At first I was hurt but over the month, I tried my hardest to build myself up and to heal from the heartbreak, mental and financial abuse.

Last night, he reached out and messaged me that he can't live without me. He love me so much and he'll fix his life to be with me (which I've heard a thousand times before).

I have no plans on fixing everything and getting back with him. I had enough of his craps and I don't want to be the one who's always carrying his life problems because of his laziness and incompetence.

As of now I'm happy and living the best life without him.

Comments (2)

Alonebuddy
Alonebuddy 58 mins ago

i had a guy who did the same thing… super “sweet” at the start then slowly turned into this jealous, controlling, financially draining mess. i kept thinking love would fix him. it never did. reading your post felt like looking at my old life and i’m honestly proud of you for choosing yourself

PloopMo548
PloopMo548 2 hrs ago

how ironic is tht, if these plot is vice versa,,
idk how lazy or toxic the women …men will always accept and carry on and hold it and for case you are talking about financial and his problems


lady in the world these is opposite for everyone
its just the nature that even a few a girl started earning she will feel like she doesn’t need anyone and even in few days she will move on and leave the one who stayed for her for years no matter what
but she will just have this ego that won’t let her to settle for less or equal
but a guy will settle even she have nothing except giving respect and love

SweetAndBright540
SweetAndBright540 45 mins ago

that's what happened to me, she literally told me she kept me around because she liked a roof over her head, she would go out with her friends and admit they laughed and talked shit about me, sane thing with her coworkers , it gave these people a false image of me while she hated me in public and viewed me as something to laugh about and talk about behind closed doors she acted like she loved me. I can't figure out what kind of person hates someone so much they pretend to love them when they dont. what did I do to deserve that? been together since 2004 have 3 kids together, who stays with someone that long and makes a family when they don't love you or respect you