i still can't get over him, I've known him since 2023 and we started seeing each other in March 2025 and we only do lustful things, but the thing is that not only I like the things that we do but I also love him, even though he treated me terrible in the past, he has said to me that he wants me in his life and that he doesn't want to lose me but at the same time he tells me that he doesn't think that what we have will turn to a relationship also he was my first everything so it's even harder to get over him and I really tried to cut him off for 2 months but I didn't make it because I couldn't stop thinking about him
Last updated on:2026-01-08T00:48:50+05:30
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I really empathize with your story and I know the feeling of being in love and not take the same commitment and feeling back.
I would suggest that you focus on self-love and take off the focus of him. If you focus on loving yourself, you'll not accept what he's giving, because you will want more for yourself. He was your first, but there can be another first amazing things after. A new first "true love" or "true friendship" or a new sucessful project, a new hobby. Don't settle for that. If you're capable of loving him, that's something beautiful that comes from you, so you can direct it to better things
when you went those 2 months without him, did anything in you feel a tiny bit lighter or calmer… even if you missed him like hell?
No sadly it was actually worse
what helped me a little was asking myself how i felt after seeing him, not before. the before is the high. the after is the truth.
I get what you're saying but the thing is that when I'm not with him im sad, when I'm with him I feel happy and safe and after seeing him I feel sad again
i had a guy who was my “first everything” too and that attachment hits DIFFERENT. he treated me like crap but the minute he said he “didn’t wanna lose me,” i folded every time. it’s such a confusing mix of love, lust, and history and it pulls you back even when you know it hurts. you’re not crazy for struggling with this