context: my ex and I have broken up for around two months. my ex and I work at the same job. my ex and I are both shift supervisors at our job.
how would you feel if your ex talks to you in the back of house saying you need to talk and he would send you a voice memo about it right as you're about to clock on for your shift
so, your anxiety immediately spikes. your first question is "did I do something wrong?" he says no. you're still anxious as hell getting on the floor. you notice he sends the voice memo and you look at the transcript and see he's essentially confessing to talking romantically to another coworker and, not just any other coworker, another shift supervisor
so, you're angry, you're sad, you're hurt, and you're confused and you have one million questions about so many different things regarding the situation and your past relationship. you ask if you can call him, he says yea sure. you say fuck that because he lives five minutes down the road, you want him to say what he said to you face to face
I called my mom on my lunch break and I was bawling my eyes out in front of the store. I couldn't believe what he was doing. it made me wonder how soon we were over in his head before we were. it made me wonder how replaceable I was. typing this out, it feels like a huge slap in the face, like spitting on our relationship and its entirety
I met up with him and talked to him after work. it was an okay conversation. I made him say it to my face because I genuinely believe that's what I deserved; it was inconsiderate knowing I was working a full shift during when he sent that and not to mention cowardly. I told him he was being unkind. that no matter which way you twist and pull at the circumstances, what he was choosing to do was unkind. I got closure unrelated to that because I largely blamed myself for our entire breakup. we talked about everything that went on between us and I don't anymore, so, if anything came out of this, I at least got peace of mind from that
I feel so betrayed and hurt from everything. I put in my two weeks while I was working. it makes me feel sick. how would you feel if you were in my position?
Last updated on:2025-12-03T19:42:19+05:30
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when he said all that to your face later, did it actually give you any real clarity… or just more questions?
I look at him with pity. he has avoidant tendencies and this relationship he's possibly getting in is only him trying to build a void. he cites the reason he ended the relationship is he was ready for a relationship and I wasn't when his actions now just confirm to me he also isn't ready, acting like someone who has it all together but he doesn't.
@gayclown42 **fill a void
i’d feel wrecked too. i think putting in your two weeks might actually give you some breathing room. when the wound is that fresh and you’re seeing them daily, it’s so hard to heal.
i had an ex do something similar at work, like drop a whole emotional bomb on me right before my shift. i remember shaking in the break room wondering how long i’d been “replaced” in his head. that feeling of being blindsided HURTS. i’m really sorry you had to deal with that in the middle of trying to just… work.
of course shock mad sad mix I think he try made u jealous or he just jerk send u hug kiss love