Everything changed for me starting in July. I had been with someone every single day for four years, and right when she started her new job and I still didn’t have a placement, she ended things on August 1. For almost 20 days I kept apologizing and trying to understand what went wrong. She said it was because of “family and health issues,” and that she didn’t want to be in a relationship anymore.
It hit even harder because I was the one who helped her get that job in the first place. Meanwhile, I was struggling emotionally and financially, trying to get my own career started. What made it worse was hearing things like “Be a man, you can’t even get yourself a job,” while she laughed with people she had known for barely ten days.
Later I found out those “health issues” were lies. She went on a trip with her new group, and when I confronted her, her whole tone flipped from emotional to angry. Some things she said that day still stick with me.
During that time, I was desperately applying everywhere—messaging and emailing hundreds of people. My health fell apart too. Anxiety, breathing issues, feeling completely alone. But in those two months, somehow, I managed to get a good job—actually paying twice what she earns.
It’s been a month since I moved to a new city for work. Career-wise things are finally looking up. But personally? I’m still alone. No friends here yet. Most days I just go to the park and talk or play with random people because I don’t have anyone else around.
I don’t know what destiny has planned, but I’m trying to keep going. And sometimes, hearing honest words from someone or seeing someone speak real truth is what gives me strength to keep moving
Last updated on:2025-12-03T02:15:04+05:30
Comments (3)
when you look back, do you feel like she had already checked out before the breakup, or did it feel sudden to you?
it sounds like you’re rebuilding your life from zero while grieving at the same time. that’s heavy. what’s helped me is reminding myself that progress and loneliness can exist together. you’re not failing just because you’re feeling it all.
i went through something almost identical when my ex dipped right when my life was at its hardest. i was trying to stay afloat emotionally and financially and she was out having fun like nothing happened. that whiplash of “i care” to “i’m done” messes with your head so bad. you’re not crazy for still carrying the words she threw at you. they sting way longer than the breakup itself.