For background info we broke up cause he wanted single time, been basically dating for 2 months, currently friends but still might get back together in December depending on his feelings ( he said he doesn’t know if he likes me, but at the same time can’t stop thinking bout me sometimes).
Anyways if I don’t text him first then we pretty much don’t speak for the day. It sometimes felt like that even when we dated but he’d still text first sometimes. And at the moment I know I’m not his gf and stuff but it hurts that if I don’t text him then we don’t speak, especially since we’ve basically arranged to get back with each other. I mean he usually says something on tiktok every day like sends a vid of send a message but that’s just about TikTok. And like when I text him a goodnight message he always says smt like “Goodnight *my name* sleep well and talk tmr ofc” but then tmr we only talk if im the one to text him. I sent a snap today, he sent a snap for streaks and the one I sent was still on delivered, and then I sent another snap and that was on delivered. At around midnight he opened the snaps (which made me think he went to check if I said anything to him because I always do and his snap score only went up by 2) but he didn’t say anything. Like yesterday the exact same thing with the snap thing happened and then even though my snaps from the morning were on delivered I texted him “I’m going to sleep now *then my usual goodnight message*” and he replied INSTANTLY
. I have snap premium and I only saw his snap score go up by a couple so maybe he didn’t use snap much that day but still he replied instantly to the chat and then started replying to the snaps like uhm it’s a bit late. And yes maybe if I don’t text for 2 days he will text me first and be like “heyy I been waiting for u to text me haven’t heard from u in a while” or smt and when I say “yea u couldn’ve text me too” he always says “I know”. So im confused and it hurts cause why can’t he just text me first? And I know we planning on getting back together in December, but does he even care about me if I don’t text him then we don’t speak? Oh also it’s the same thing with hangouts like if I don’t plan the hangout then we just don’t hangout, and when we were together I planned when EVERY date would be except for the first one cause if I didn’t then it didn’t seem to be happening. Im sorry I know this is a lot of writing but please give me some advice guys what do you think I should do about this boy situation? I genuinely love him and have been waiting for him till December until he’s ready but it also hurts seeing how we could probably go days without talking if I didn’t reach out.
Last updated on:2025-12-03T23:31:02+05:30
Comments (4)
do you feel like you’re the one carrying the whole relationship energy right now? like planning the dates, starting the convos, keeping things alive… has he ever shown you what his effort looks like?
when someone makes me feel like i’m the only one keeping the connection alive, i pause. like… if i stopped texting, would this whole thing just fall apart? sometimes stepping back for a day or two tells you more than overthinking ever will.
i dated a guy who “didn’t know how he felt” but still liked when i did all the chasing. it messed with my head so bad. that whole thing where they reply instantly ONLY when you finally reach out… yeah, i lived that too
In my opinion he doesn't seem to be showing his interest in you as much as he should be, or he's just not that interested. You mentioned previously that he doesn't know if he likes you. I really don't think you should waste your time in someone who's unsure if they even like you. Just because you are on their mind sometimes doesn't equal to how much they like you. If he did like you I feel like he would text you first, initiate stuff too. The guy for you would show you that he likes you and make an effort so you would not only see that love, but also feel it. Don't settle for less, it's not worth it. There should be mutual want and effort in this situation.