Your 'HIGH HOPES' broke you, not your ex

ONE THING I learnt from my friend that recently got married to a guy that is head over heels for her and only sees her… is that she doesn't put high hopes. Like at all. Sis DETACHED FROM ALL HOPES THAT ARE ON HER MIND. She’s basically graduated with PhD of Detachment at University of Not Putting Hopes On (UNPHO).

When she was in a relationship (not engaged or married yet) with him, she said,
"I don't know where things are going between me and him."
And she said it so confidently like she was reading a weather forecast.

Then after she got engaged?
Same line. Copy paste. Zero editing.

EVEN after she's married to him she said the same thing. Like girl… you're literally someone’s wife and still acting like it’s the talking stage 😂

She detached from all her hopes. Like Bluetooth off. Wi-Fi off. All expectations: Airplane Mode.

Compared to me…
WE BOTH got into relationships in a similar timeline. But why did I end up getting a heart broken instead?

Well, because I attached myself to the high hopes. I THINK A LOOOOT ABOUT THE FUTURE I will have with my ex when we are in relationship. The house, the kids, travelling together… basically writing a whole Netflix romantic comedy series in my head with him as the main lead when he was barely even a supporting character 💀☠️

But then look at me now.
He broke up with me out of nowhere EVEN WHEN I always treated him well, did crazy efforts, never nagging, never argued back. I was basically 100% wifey material, 0% problems — and what did I get instead? I embarrassed myself 😭✋️

If just I DETACHED FROM THE BEGINNING, at least I would still have my dignity. I wouldn’t be begging him out of desperation, embarrassing myself, crawling to him like, “Let’s be friends at least…” with HIGH HOPESSS HOPING THAT HE WILL BE FALLING IN LOVE WITH ME AGAIN.

BUT LOOKKKK.
HE GHOSTED ME????
I got Casper-ed. Full on. No updates, no sequel.

DETACHED. DETACHED FROM THE HOPES, THE HIGH HOPES. DETACHED.
(Yes I’m repeating because I want my mind to reprogramme everything.)

All of these will just drag you down. If your mind cannot stop thinking about the fake sweet romantic scenario you had with your ex, change it into a worse scenario instead. Bend down the hopes by saying “nahh my ex won’t do that,” and move on with your life.

Moral of the story?
My friend is happily married. I’m here doing emotional gymnastics.
Next time, I’m following her method: detach first, don't but hopes✌️💀

Last updated on:2025-12-04T20:55:58+05:30