Guys I feel stuck. Me and him have been planning on getting back together in December depending on his emotions (he’s trying to figure out whether he still likes me or not ) etc. And im the one that basically made December a possibile chance since he was the one that broke up with me. But now I know that i prolly shouldn’t get back cause even though I really love him and have been hoping on this for the past couple months, getting back together with him will still keep me miserable as he never puts any effort in, and is very lustful. But at the same time even though I know i shouldn’t get back together, and I’m basically the glue that’s keeping the situationship going, not getting back together with him will really hurt and being with him feels like the only thing I want cause I love him sm it will just really hurt yk. I feel like maybe loosing feelings would be the only solution but idk how to and stuff. Does anyone know what I should do?
Last updated on:2025-12-09T08:51:08+05:30
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You yourself referred to it as a situationship. That doesn't sound like love to me. You should move on. Under no circumstance should you wait for him to decide if he wants to be with you. Know your worth.
Hi sunnyflower. As someone who was in this exact situation. What i can say is that it does get better if you let go. Like you said you are the glue and the decision is yours and yours alone. You need to choose you first and decide to let go because he is choosing himself first. Do not wait for his emotions, you are more important. It is really hard but when you choose yourself and love yourself more, with time you'll get over him and when you look back to this time, you will be glad you did. Wish you all the best.
Does he show you that he loves you?
Do you want to be with someone who doesn't love you?
hlo
What's his perspective about you?
Do you think he loves you?
If he does,what shows?
Has he ever tried for you?
He knows it's easy to get you back, and whenever he does he feels like he still got the game you know...
Let him lose the game this time.
No contact is a daily reminder to ourselves that we choose ourselves and we're not going to let anyone make us feel the way they made us feel(that horrible feeling) ever again.
do you feel like he’d fight for you at all if you stopped being the one holding everything together? like if you stopped being the glue, what would he do?
Prioritize yourself and trust your gut feeling. If you say he keeps you stuck and youre ready for the next best, opt for yourself. You deserve better than someone who needs 'time' tofigure out whether he likes you. You deserve better.
the only thing that ever helped me in this spot was stepping back and asking myself “what is he actually giving me right now.” not what i want. not what he promises. what he’s actually doing. sometimes that reality check is the thing that slowly loosens the attachment. not instantly. just little by little.
well hello sunny flower pretty name btw... so I can't have the best advice to give you bearing the Intensity of your feelings to him but all I can say is that peace is your greatest asset and you shouldn't trade it for disappointment you know he doesn't put effort so you are basically holding on to the idea of being loved by him and the fear of abandonment and how lonely you feel since you love him please save your emotions you got you and only you don't lose yourself in the process of wanting that which is not there at all
i kept waiting for my ex to “figure out his feelings” too and it left me in this weird limbo where i was doing ALL the emotional work. i loved him like crazy and still knew getting back with him would hurt me more. it’s such a messed up place to be, loving someone and knowing they don’t show up for you the way you show up for them. you’re not crazy for feeling stuck. this kind of hope hits deep.