My ex ended things with me a little over 3 months ago.
I’m genuinely doing so much better I’ve been focusing on myself, getting fitter, going to counselling, rebuilding my routines, and getting my confidence back.
But every now and then I still find myself wondering:
do people who leave ever think about their ex after?
do you ever look back and question the decision a bit?
or does it just feel like relief and a clean break?
She ended things because she said we couldn’t love each other the way we both needed, and I’ve accepted that. I don’t want her back I just think I’m trying to understand the other side of the breakup.
If you’ve been the person who made the decision, what was it like for you?
Did you find it hard afterwards?
Was it guilt? Relief? Confusion? A mix?
Would really appreciate hearing your experiences
Last updated on:2025-12-08T20:50:04+05:30
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when you think about her, is it curiosity about her feelings or more like imagining what could’ve been? just trying to understand where the thoughts hit you most
from my experience, it’s totally normal to wonder about the other side. it doesn’t mean you’re wrong or want them back, it’s just your brain processing. let yourself feel it without judging it
ugh yes i’ve been the one to end it before. i felt like relief at first, like a weight lifted, but also this gnawing guilt for weeks… i’d catch myself thinking about them and wondering if i’d made the right call. it’s confusing as hell
I broke up with my ex 8 months ago. at first I felt relief was able to focus on myself and then it slowly got worse over months it led to a mix of feeling such as guilt, sadness, and confusion. still to this day I don’t know if I made the right decision I do regret it but at the same time you have to remind yourself on why you made the choice. so I guess it’s different for others but it has been hard on me since I initiated it
thanks for the insight into your situationit actually helped.
From my point of view… I blamed myself a lot in the first few weeks after the breakup. I started writing things down, doing little inventories of my past relationships (romantic and platonic), and trying to spot patterns. What I’ve learned is that a lot of the things I blamed myself for weren’t things I could have changed they were just the way I love. And it was the same for her. She did love me, but she couldn’t love me the way I needed, and I couldn’t love her in the way she needed.
I’m in a strange place right now.
I’m in a routine, I’m a better person than I was four months ago, and I still want to keep getting better. The sinking feeling and the constant longing have passed… but I still miss her. I miss her presence, her laugh, her opinions. But then I wonder do I miss her, or do I miss being close with someone? It’s confusing.
One thing I’m certain of is that I hope she’s doing well.
I hope she’s processed her emotions, I hope she finds what she’s looking for in life. I don’t have any hatred toward her at all
@TurboBuzz261 That is something understandable. it’s easy to take the blame for everything but always remember it takes two for the relationship to work. there is always going to be faults within each other I had to learn the hard way to let go of taking all the blame. I ended up being the blame for the relationship and carried the hurt for months but after endless therapy sessions I learned it wasn’t all on me. I think we also miss this picture of them like an idea of who they once were. I find my self doing that with him a lot missing what we had before all the conflict begin. I have to stir my thoughts in the direction of why I ended us and why it was for the better. it still hurts I would even consider giving us a second chance but I know that is not ideal at this time. I wish you the best in your healing journey it is definitely a very emotional roller coaster. I can say over time the pain does get better you’ll miss them but won’t feel as bad as you did