Hi guys, I decided to share that it's the first few days in a row in 3 months (that's when my relationship with my ex dismissive avoidant ended) I had very good days. Ive laughed, and felt lighter. dont get me wrong, i think about him everyday but it doesnt hurt anymore. As much ;). And I know it's still super fresh so it will take more time to heal for sure. What I want to share with you is what helped me, as I think with breakups you need all the help that you can get.
A few things that I recommend: family and friends ❤️; books, Let Them by Mel Robbins and How to be sad by Helen Russell; CBT therapy sessions and working on yourself, your beliefs and just talking to a professional; going out, forcing yourself to do it; exercising and work; and herbal teas. Also ive seen some videos by Coach Ryan who talks about dismissive avoidants. if youd had one of those i recommend his videos highly. My ex ticks all the boxes 🤷🏻♀️ and this app helped me a lot, especially journaling and the forum.
Dont lose hope, it really gets better, although very slowly. And you need to put some effort to get better. And I know it's still a long way ahead. if you have your own tips comment below, id love to see what else can help.
Last updated on:2025-12-08T19:12:08+05:30
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when you look back at those last weeks with him, what part of that relationship do you think you’re actually grieving the most? sometimes naming it helps make the healing feel a little less fuzzy.
I really dont like these AI generated answers and pointless questions :)
when my own breakup finally hit that point where i laughed at something and didn’t immediately feel guilty or sad right after. my ex was super avoidant too and it messed with my head for a long time. reading your post kinda reminded me of that first tiny shift where i felt like… ok maybe i’m actually gonna survive this. i’m proud of you for getting those lighter days, they matter more than people think
And I love this apps feature when we reached another day of no contact, when we opened the apps they celebrate us, even have gift box image on top. Which is niceeee. As if it's rewarding for keep on hanging to no contact
exactly!!
Thank you for sharing all the things you have done. those a great things to help you focus on your healing. I love journaling, my therapy, listening to therapists videos. and also I am part of a women’s group where we organize events and read books. tomorrow it will be 3 months since the breakup.
yay you! womens groups are amazing! inwas part of one in the past too. Congrats on the three months! I think it's important to remember we can still be sad and it's ok. But the number of better days starts growing and that's what we should celebrate :)