Struggling tonight

My ex broke up with me 4 weeks ago today (6/11/2025). I feel like Crying tonight. My work colleague told me she saw my ex talking to a blonde girl Saturday night when out for drinks. I wasnt out I was sick. I feel like he's moving on much quicker we were together 3.5 years. Tonight I feel like I hate him and if I saw him out on a night out id hate him because I currently feel like I hate him. we ended things on good terms. I haven't seen his parents yet but I will be soon as they get their medication in the pharmacy that I work in and I dont know whether to say hi or avoid them. Feels like I am going through phases where I hate him and then I still love him.

Last updated on:2025-12-09T05:48:35+05:30

Comments (6)

Limpodio
Limpodio 3 mths ago

what part hit you the hardest… the idea of him talking to someone new or the fact that you weren’t there to see it for yourself?

BrightSide768
BrightSide768 3 mths ago

I think its the ideas circulating around in my head. I have always been an over thinker which is bad

sadFeeling
sadFeeling 3 mths ago

i try to not trust the first emotion that shows up. it’s usually the most painful one. i just sit with it for a bit and remind myself that whatever he does right now doesn’t say anything about my worth or my timeline. and if you end up seeing his parents, a small hi is enough. you don’t owe them a whole conversation.

CozyNJoy164
CozyNJoy164 3 mths ago

i feel extremely sorry for u but believe me, guys always realise what they lost later. like month or even few. as soon as they realise—no ur touch, no presence, no care— they would understand that only u could get them feel like this so they would feel same or even worth. let it out, cry as much u want and give urself time for this, to let out of u all this resentment

BrightSide768
BrightSide768 3 mths ago

Appreciate the reply. Turned out the blonde girl was an old colleague of his. I was shown the picture. I've often wondered how long it will actually take my ex to reach out. He told me he saw long term with me and he said if he didnt want to be with me he would have got rid of me long time ago. His exams start tomorrow so I'm wondering did he also break up with over stress with them

BrightSide768
BrightSide768 3 mths ago

I hate myself I ended up messaging him good luck with his exams